advice and opinions needed - - relates to a erotic lit but def not the norm

[greenfield001]

today I discovered my partner had been reading articles on a website entitled six.clubetchi.com - generally erotic writing but with a lot of incest (although adult - teenage 18+) content- to be honest I am just shell shocked and cant quite process this and don't know what to even think about it ... Is this something someone could do without being that way inclined - and just searching for erotic lit ? what would you think - how would you react to this ? just don't know where to go with this ...

that would bother me too, love

how could you fail to be disturbed by something so close to home ?

Well then don't.

It's understandable to be disgusted by discovering that isn't it?

And to have been with someone without them ever sharing that they have this interest...

So he has kept a fairly important aspect of his sexuality from you, you have now got concerns about your DDs and you can't talk to him without him losing control..?

LTB...

he has to be the one to deal with his "volatility"

you cannot change his behaviour...only he can do that

You will only be able to 'get your head around it' if he is honest and open about it...

Doesn't seem likely does it?

In which case you need to protect DDs from the worst case scenario IMO.

I cant really think properly right now - but is there any risk to my DDs - as that is by far my biggest concern - not that after that there aren't other issues

We don't know if there is any risk to your daughters. The risk assessment has to be made by you, I am afraid. Part of that should involve being able to ask him about it, but it seems that is barred to you.

So...

is it a real interest though ? as Leigh said she seems to have also looked at this site .. I know though that the only way I can have a hope of finding out is to discuss it - as you have said and that will be hard but cant not happen

AnyFucker - I will discuss - no matter what - its not really an option not to ..just will obviously dread it

If he is interested in father daughter incest porn because he is interested in abusing your DDs then yes.

That is IMO the least likely reason why he would be but it is such an important thing I wouldn't take the risk on someone who refused to discuss the issue without losing control and shouting.

so you would discuss Offred ? - I will as Ive said
the earlier posters seemed to consider this all so normal like reading serial killer stories - so at least not everyone thinks it is ..

AF - your comments are v apt - I have to make that assessment and that involves a discussion

Absolutely.

And i would want to know why he had kept it hidden from me. I'd want him to understand that hiding that interest would obviously cause me to wonder if he is a risk to me and the DC and be reasonable.

The person I knew was open and honest from the start, discussed it freely, I watched them around their family, I understood it from other parts of their submissiveness and it was a specific fantasy with specific reasons.

It seems as though your P has been reading all kinds of different themes based on incest which would take some more explaining - which role in the fantasies is he putting himself in the abused or the abuser and why?

Some people get off on taboo subjects/themes. Doesn't mean they want to act then out, although I do understand your alarm.

I wouldn't say it's normal though it isn't necessarily an indicator on it's own that he is pathological.

I don't think this is comparable to reading serial killer stories. People generally read those for suspense, or morbid curiosity; people look to erotic lit and porn specifically to get off. I'm with the 'this is not OK' camp, but I'm an incest abuse victim so not impartial. I view it in the same way I would a partner getting off on rape porn. I would be concerned about what underlies sexual fantasies/preferences that blur consent lines (as incest usually does)

Getting off on any abuse fantasy really is being turned on by a particular element of power play. What part of the power play is his fantasy?

Because if he's fantasising about being the aggressor coupled with what you say about him (volatile and possibly physically abused by his father) and the fact he has hidden it from you I would run a mile.

I don't think you can take this one thing in isolation from everything else.

Green ... The earlier posters certainly gave you a few perspectives to think about: this is not necessarily the end of the world, it's not necessarily something he wants to act on, and it might be something he hasn't even read but has come across randomly. It might be something to do with some form of abuse (that was only speculation mind you) or might be something else entirely. But no one on the Internet can really guess at your DHs motives or actions except him.

If all else was well, I'd advise giving yourself a bit of time to get over the shock and disgust, think calmly and collect your own thoughts on it, and then approach him and be ready for denials or guilt or anger.

However, it's very worrying that you feel he'll explode at you. Has he been violent in the past? Do you have anywhere to go or people to call on for help if you do confront him and he's very angry?

Honestly erotic online literature now seems to be a lot about incest, bondage, submission etc. as long it's all in realm of fantasy it's fine IMO. I do read a bit of this because it's less grim than visual porn now. In fact the site recommendation came from MN.

If you know of a site with "normal" stuff on it id be interested. In my lifetime it's gone from Gilly Cooper to stuff I think is grim. I preferred Gilly but it's harder to find!