Can anyone help with my query please?

[Willmum79]

Hi All

This is my first post, and I'm wondering if anyone can help with my query?

I ended things with my boyfriend of 18months the Sunday after Boxing Day. Since then I've managed no contact quite happily, he's sent me a text and an email but I've not responded.

Well today I got an email from him saying that he had had a funny turn at the Drs and that when he came round the dr diagnosed him with anxiety and depression. Added to that he is now seeing a counsellor and this is the bit I need help with- the counsellor has asked him to get friends and and work colleagues as well as people he has been in a relationship with to write a statement about his moods and how he has behaved towards them recently so they can see a pattern of his behaviour....he says he would appreciate this help to move on...
He has asked me to do this. I feel this is unfair given our split is recent. I haven't responded to him.

My question is, does anyone know if a counsellor would ask you to get statements in this way?

Just seemed a little odd to me?

Thanks in advance
Xx

Unless you are in couples or family therapy no-one would be asked to contribute a behavioural report. It's utter rubbish. Quite a little BSer isn't he, your Ex?

You dumped him the best thing you can and are doing is to ignore him.

You will both eventually move on.

As harsh and cold hearted as it is, you dumped him for a reason. He is not your problem anymore.

I wouldn't say that Doreen - then there might be some fabricated therapist yada yada

Why not? If a therapist contacts her then she can easily research to see if they exist and then ignore if they don't. Of course, there is no therapist so this is not going to be a problem.

Total nonsense. You don't get 2 hours with an NHS counsellor (surely he'd know how to spell it if he'd actually seen one) - no more than 45 mins to an hour. And as others have said - you self-assess.

To depressed and anxious patient, requesting an 'honest' appraisal of his character from people who aren't trained in mental health, could lead to dire consequences if those accounts aren't positive. And they'd be completely irrelevant anyway.

Block on all media.

I'd be sorely tempted to email back an account on the following lines for him to give to his alleged counsellor:
Dear Ms Therapist,
I engaged in a relationship of 18 months duration with your client during the course of which he proved himself to be a controlling/manipulative/immature/self obsessed/insensitive/abusive/tightarsed (delete where inapplicable) tosspot. Hope this helps.
Yours sincerely, etc.

But seriously, keep up the good work of no contact and be prepared for Valentine's wishes 'chance meetings' in the not too distant future because I get the feeling this man is unlikely to give up easily and clever enough to avoid overtly harassing you.

This site really is brilliant, it's great that there are so many supportive people out there it really does make a difference.

I've found re reading these posts is helping to keep me strong so thank you every one.
Xxxxxxx