Am I Wrong?

[shanks313]

My friend is getting married in August next year and we have been best friends for over 2 years.
We had made plans that I was going to travel up to her on Thursday so we could spend time together and its also a 5 hour journey for me.
This week she has told me that on the eve of her wedding shes staying with another friend who shes known since February,
I am very hurt by this as it feels like a friend who she hardly knows is more important to her than me on her wedding day.
On my wedding day she was my witness and she was with us all day even whilst getting changed in our room.
Now all we are doing is arguing about it and I dont know what to do

how old are you??

if you live 5 hours away from her how can she stay with you on the eve of her wedding? isnt it a bit far??

just because you have known her longer does not give you exclusive rights to her friendship. As you live further away from her I'm guessing that she sees this other friend more often, plus it might be more convenient for her to stay with this friend esp if she doesn't want to see her future husband on the night before her wedding.

tbh I think your reaction is very childish.

surely its up to her who she spends the eve of her wedding with? and its not trys and turns with weddings either. did you ask her to stay with you all day so you would be asked to stay with her?

My friend lives in Plymouth and I live in Berkshire.

We were going to stay in a hotel together on the Friday night before the wedding in Plymouth.Now shes staying the night with the other firend in a hotel in Plymouth.The other friend doesnt live locally to her.
I was making the effort to travel down with my husband and young baby to be there and it was important to me that we were there but shes acting like she doesnt want to spend any time with us now.

i think thats sad but i also think the whole thing sounds quite tit-for-tat schoolyardy...

i would either discuss it calmly with her or just move on if you dont feel the friendship is what you thought it was.

Yes, it is a bit of a bummer if you had made specific plans and she has cancelled on you. But you know, I think given its her wedding and all that you should let it go. Maybe if she upsets you again then you should consider your 'best friends' status.