This has been going on for a while, i could tell you alot but ill just give you the gist...
alot of stuff happened when my dad was younger, i got snippits of this stuff as ive gotten older, but just tried to block it out, but im finding it increasingly difficult now im a mother to two boys,
basically my grandma had 3 kids to one man, he was a drunk ..
on one occasion her husband hadnt arrived home from work - he was a drinker so she knew hed be at the pub, not just late, but she left my dad who was 3 alone in the house with his little brother who was just months old!!
my dad basically painted the house with a tin of brown paint he found, when she arrived home, hed put himself to bed covered in ths fence paint!! - shejust left him!!
she was more interested in cleaning the TV because it was a rental! - she told me this herself a few weeks ago and was laughing!
now her first hubby left and she got a new man, my now 'grandad'
this man beat my father, booted him, all from the age of about 4
he put my father into care, where he was beaten and a man repeatedly attempted to abuse him sexually,
meanwhile my dads younger brother, was also being beaten, my grandama went to scotland for a holiday, and when she got home my stepgrandfather had placed my uncle into care!! because he was misbehaving! it took him 6 months to get out
and all the time my grandma watched the beatings, and allowed him to put her kids into care,
i basically have grown to hate them, but i feel i couldnt mention it because my dad seemed to have gotten over it (f**k knows how!)
but my uncle is now an alcoholic, a few weeks ago we got a phone call, he had been half beaten to death with an iron bar - for no reason other than being a drunk - she didnt bother to go see him,
for 2 weeks we kept him at our house, he had operations on his broken jaw and shattered eyesocket,
he stayed off the drink, im so proud of him,
but he had to go stay with my grandma for a night, and she left him to wander the street and you guessed it, get totally pissed
i cant stand this woman, she visits once a year, but my stepgrandad visits weekly,
im finding it increasingly difficult to keep a smile on my face when seeing them,
ive never mentioned what went on, but its eating me up inside,
LOADS more horrific stuff went on, stuff my mum wont tell me about because she knows how much i love my daddy and i couldnt handle it!
i feel i want to write them a letter, explaining i know what went on in the past, and i feel they dont deserve a part in their grandchildrens life, as they didnt care enough to bring my dad up with love,
i know it will cause upset, but i honestly cant go on much longer with this false love for them,
what should i do??