DH has a long history of smoking pot and while I knew this getting in to the relationship. HE has also been known to occasionally dabble with acid and e. We had planned to go to a friends farm for new years, the kids were going to sleep in their bus and the adults just relax. I knew there would be pot around however have heard dh talking to friend saying he is trying to get some acid as well. I have told him if he is going to take acid then I won't be going and nor will ds, we will hang out quietly at home. He says that ds will be asleep anyway and he really wants us to go. I don't want ds there asleep or not and when I am the only one who doesn't smoke pot or take other substances (won't be drinking either as I like to be available for ds if he needs me (just over 2yrs old)) it is a fairly naff time for me. So why do I feel so guilty and like I am giving dh an ultimatum. It doesn't seem very fair of me when I have known his history all along