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Unsuitable much?

19 replies

PrincessBooBoo · 05/01/2016 10:47

I would like to go out with an older man, he's 60 Im 50. I have no problem asking him, but Im looking into the future and it looks bleak. I mean, its a big age gap, and he has a young son of 10 and is perfectly solvent and normal.

What are the pitfalls of going out with a much older man. I do not wish to become a companion, but do believe I could make a real go of it too. Maybe there are more good points than bad. Any opinions?

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PrincessBooBoo · 05/01/2016 11:10

Anyone?

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lasagnefortea · 05/01/2016 11:10

60 is the new 50 providing you have a positive outlook (not one where the future looks bleak)

goddessofsmallthings · 05/01/2016 11:18

10 years is hardly "much older".

Why are you overthinking this when you haven't yet asked him to go out with you? Do you see every man you fancy having a date with as a potential life-partner?

BitOutOfPractice · 05/01/2016 11:26

I assume you're only asking him on a date. Not to marry you

I think you are crossing a gazillion too many bridges here!

hellsbellsmelons · 05/01/2016 11:30

60 vs 50 is hardly a HUGE age gap.
Go for it. Enjoy it.
Blimey, stop looking so far into the future.

Savagebeauty · 05/01/2016 11:32

Just have fun!
You could die first.

ShortandSweeter · 05/01/2016 11:43

10 years is nothing.

pocketsaviour · 05/01/2016 18:29

If you were 30, that would be a big age gap!

My rule of thumb on these is that 2/3 of the oldest partner's age is about what's acceptable. So for him, dating a 40 year old would be okay.

What are you specifically worried about? Retirement? Having to provide personal care for him?

NotNowBono · 05/01/2016 18:53

Well, if he was spry enough to father a child at 50, I reckon he'll be good for a few years yet, surely?

AnyFucker · 05/01/2016 18:55

50 and 60 is not a huge gap

You are the same generation. Do you still fancy yourself as 21 ? Grin

Bobblehat10 · 05/01/2016 19:13

Mind you, if you look far enough, any future looks bleak.

I don't think I am going to survive this life. :(

AnyFucker · 05/01/2016 19:16

None of us survive this life Smile

Timetorethink · 05/01/2016 19:21

You think YOU have a problem - I am female and I'm 11 years older than my partner :( (52/41)

Why look so far ahead - just enjoy the moment :)

pizzaeatingmonkey · 05/01/2016 19:26
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PrincessBooBoo · 05/01/2016 20:42

Yeah Im probably over thinking it. Just wanted to see any benefits over a younger man I suppose. Been there and done that!

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AnyFucker · 05/01/2016 21:06

Err, every individual man has his own "benefits" (or not, as the case may be...)

Cabrinha · 05/01/2016 22:30

At 50 I wouldn't mind a 60yo.
Not sure I could be arsed with a 10yo child to account for though!

Effendi · 06/01/2016 12:21

I'm 46 and my DH is 58. Its hardly noticeable.

Crumpet1 · 06/01/2016 12:23

I think the gap is fine. My dh is 7 years older than me and we get on fine.
I think usually one of you will catch up to the other. In my case I act more like my DHs age rather than my own.

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