My dh will never get best dh award, he had a affair about 8 years ago, I stayed. I know that I shouldn't have, didn't have mn then. Numerous reason why I stayed mostly to save every one else the pain. For anyone who has never been in this situation its not easy to just leave. I have huge trust issues because just when I think we are ok he does something else to make me realize that it isn't. Saw a counsellor who sided with dh an said I had allowed his behaviour, poor lamb wasn't getting any attention, this was not helpful! Anyway trying to keep this short an sweet.
Noticed last September that dh phone on silent again. We have had issues re this in the past that's how most of affair conducted, so understandabley I am a hyper aware, he said it was the phone going on silent on its own, it wasn't possible for this to happen we have same phone. So dh got a new phone. It continued to mysteriously go on silent at different times. I kept quiet an just noticed this continued for months. The phone doesn't seem to be going on silent now, my spidery senses tell me something was going on again. Or have I gone batshit crazy lady? I have put it off as didn't want to upset Christmas.
I want to start the new year with a clean slate, I really don't know how to broach this with dh as months have passed an the phone now is not on silent. Really eating away at me as my gut instinct shouting at me, I really don't want a argument especially if he just going to deny it, and leaves me feeling like a mad woman, he's done this before sadly. I am even thinking of going to counseler again together an saying it there. Please tell me if you think I've lost the plot as I need some perspective.