puzzled by someone ignoring me on facebook (yes, it's quite boring)

[loveitvmonkey]

Hi all, not anything dramatic or entertaining to ask really, just a bit 'hmm'. Had met a man two months back through work, but don't work together and don't live in the same town either.

Had a nice chat back then, but being in a rush it was brief. So I had friended him on FB, literally to continue that chat. I liked him and am single, so I did think on the lines of who knows, maybe it will go somewhere as I will see him again at some point, and if not we will stay friendly. He wrote back, I was surprised how pleased he sounded, quite chatty. So he friended me at that point. He could obviously tell I liked him as I made that first step.

Since then, I had joined in several chats that he took part in. Nothing heavy or serious. People involved in these short chats liked or replied to my contributions. What I don't get is, he never liked or replied anything I said in these chats involving others apart from one 'like' a while back, neither anything of my own! I once thanked him along with another person for a useful post, nothing in response. Just a strange stoney silence for over a month! He's never overly chatty to anyone in particular but he posts/chats daily even though briefly.

I now think he doesn't like me for whatever reason. That's fine, he's not obliged to like me at all! But I don't get why he hasn't blocked or unfriended me. Any thoughts? and should I never bother commenting/liking anything, or just carry on regardless of his non-reaction, maybe that's normal on FB?

I personally accept anyone who I have met in real life but rarely comment or like things unless my closest friends have posted them, hasn't unfriended you because that would be quite mean after just becoming friends
ok, maybe that's what many people do. I'm new to FB so I thought the point was to interact.

Thanks for all replies, very helpful.

I didn't expect him to ask me out, that was a bit of wishful thinking as really we don't live in the same location and I knew he may not be single, but I did hope for a friendly chat on FB.

He is active there almost daily, and hasn't unfollowed me. I think he has to see my posts if I'm on the same 'thread' or chat as he is.

Or do you mean you are commenting on his posts, then his friends reply to your comments but he doesn't?
yes, exactly that. So he or someone else starts a chat/posts a photo and a couple of people comment and so do I, and while he goes into a quick dialogue with them, it's never with me (while his friends sometimes comment/like mine), well he did just once like something and that was it. I'm just left hanging sort of, even when I asked something. Anyway as you all say, who knows what his reasons are, possibly he doesn't want to encourage more initiative from me, as I did initiate in the first place. Or he just isn't paying any attention to anyone who's not a RL friend, as you say.

'Move on' is a good advice really! I will probably not post anymore, may sometimes 'like' something at most.

Self I won't unfriend him but I may not carry on with FB as a member in active way as it looks like a waste of time. I get all the invites via email from all my hobbies etc. I think anyone can jst read without being a member.

Better to spend that time on MN tbh! much more useful on all subjects and interactive.

Some people hardly ever go on fb even though they've got an account ..believe it or not .

Dear god! People seriously over invest in what are essentially strangers via FB! You are over thinking this. Stop caring that he hasnt unfriended or blocked you. Does it matter? His rules for FB arent your rules. People use it differently. You remind me of a friend who massively over analyses this kind of shit. Its very frustrating to have to listen to.

Otherwise what is the point of friending (genuine questions, I'm not criticising)?

He liked you? He didnt want to be rude and ignore your friend request? He was interested but after your slightly stalkery behaviour he is backing off? He liked you but after seeing your interests via your FB page/behaviour he realises you havent anything in common?

thanks Elf, plenty of options and not all bad! ok, I'm leaving it be. Much easier not to be too bothered after reading the thread.

That's not a chat. Im not young but I've seen some retired relatives do that - comment on every single post when they first begin FB. It's not the done thing, unless you are in a relationship or it's relative to you, etc. I'm not sure why it's not, you'd think that was the whole point of FB, but if you just met this guy... No. Do not comment on his posts. Especially as he's not engaging with you on them.

I don't comment on every post, Horton, only on 'conversations' that interest me. Not daily! I do have some sense , even when I want to I don't always comment as I don't want to impose on him too much.The one post that he 'liked' was me voicing my view on a discussion he had with one RL mate, but I did apologise for interfering. also I notice that anyone who is a friend comments on photos but I have no way of knowing if they are a RL friend or just an fb one.

I don't plan to comment anymore, but I think 'liking' is fine as otherwise what is the point of being friended, as you say. But maybe I should not even do that. Will focus on other things instead.

Can I hi-jack a bit and ask what the difference is between unfriending someone, blocking them, and no longer following someone?

I have just accepted someone's friend request, and am now being bombarded in my Newsfeed with notifications that this person has 'liked' something. I don't really want to know about things she 'likes', but would still like to see if she starts a post.

There is also someone else who I don't want to see their feed, nor do I want them to see any of my posts, but I don't really want the drama of her knowing I have blocked her.

Can anyone advise?

Beryl I think the hierarchy is:

Unfollow: you are still friends, you can look at her posts but they won't come up in your feed.

Unfriend: they can see you have a profile but only see posts of yours that are public and vice versa.

Block: they can't even see you exist and any posts you make are deleted from any conversation they are on at the same time as you (which gets odd when they see '8 likes' but then only 7 names, or someone replies to their comment and it doesn't make sense because you can't see what is being responded to).

Thanks Lougle. I have played around with my settings, and I think I might have sorted it.