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When your Dh calls you by another women's name while drunk!!

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Louisa111 · 02/01/2016 14:59

New Year's Eve started off quite well, we had a few drinks and was quite merry, dh more so than me when he called me by another women's name. I was ok with it at the time , in fact I laughed but as the days go on and I'm now sober is this a major red flag??

The woman in question was someone I was wary of in the past, suspected an affair but was very insecure in myself having not long had Dd, she's a work colleauge and we had spoken about her that evening , me saying I felt silly for spending a lot time worrying about this girl, him stressing that nothing ever went on, he loves me. It was all light-hearted chatter...something that was needed. Then a hour or two later he calls me by her name, I was in another room and he called out...just wasn't my name he called.

Should I just forget this or be on my guard yet again???

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Yseulte · 07/01/2016 13:41

The real issue here is whether he did or didn't have an affair with this woman. You had a conversation about that a couple of hours before he called you by her name.

From what you've written, what it sounds like is that at the very least he got close to her when you had a newborn, with these 'light-hearted' conversations he 'needed' so much. (Why?) And you're not completely convinced by his protestations of innocence.

You need to talk to your husband and get to the bottom of what actually happened.

Louisa111 · 08/01/2016 08:33

I hope he didn't and we do talk and he just denies it all, at times he can be quite defensive about it... I mean tbh unless I had rock solid evidence what man would admit it?

I just hope and pray he didn't!! And I can't keep mentioning it to him x

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