Should I say anything? Cancer survivor smoking.

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I was visiting DB a couple of days ago. I am convinced he is smoking in secret (hiding it from SIL). In the last three years he has been diagnosed life-threatening cancer but after some tough chemo and surgery (8 months off work) he was declared fit to return to work and is still being monitored (blood tests once a year). They have two children. Should I make it clear that I noticed? He obviously knows he is not supposed to be smoking otherwise he wouldn't be hiding it. I am in my 40s and he is my older brother.

Totally agree

When I said tell him you know, I meant, when you are together, just say - it's Ok - you can smoke in front of me

something like that

sorry if this sounds very counter intuitive

I used cannabis regularly through my treatment, recovery and after.

Not suggesting he is using drugs along with his smoke, just a thought.

Maybe he enjoys it still?

Personally I stopped smoking (fags) years ago but somehow can have a joint or 4 if I have a bad pain day without wanting a cigarette.

Let him decide where his balance is

My dad had a major heart attack in his mid 40s. His consultant told him if it would be too stressful to quit smoking he should just cut down as much as he could. I was there at the time it was said so I quite believe the same advice may be given to other patients. It's not a myth.

It is bad advice life. If you stop smoking after a heart attack your risk of another drops by around 50%. If you continue smoking you double the risk of having another one.

Thanks all. Alot of food for thought.

I would definitely say something.