Dumbass woman that's me!

[Rocklover]

Just slept with my estranged husband. Don't feel guilty, but feel really weird, it is an amicable split, so there was no nastiness. Now I just feel odd, like I've slept with my cousin or something.

Someone give me a slap!

OK
SLAP

Seriously, don't beat yourself up over it. We all do silly things sometimes.
Just chalk it up to experience

I did that for the two years we were separated. Every now and again.

Don't let it eat you up.

Thanks guys....did it make you feel weird though?

Why worry about it? If it was amicable and consensual (and you used a condom, of course) there's nothing to get in a state about. Sex is really just an enjoyable way of spending time with someone (well, apart from when you're actually intending procreation).

Can I ask a slightly TMI question?

Well, I'm going to ask it anyway! Yes we did use a condom....but after the first (literally) 2 mins. So because of that first two mins of fairly minimal "action" , should I be panicking my head off about getting pg?

I don't really think so, but there is a small part of my brain that keeps shouting at me. This was Thurs (I know I said just), so not too sure if a MAP would be any help after the elapse of time. Now you CAN all slap me!

No, I didn't feel weird. I needed some sex. So did he. And we both knew we were clean and didn't have to worry about diseases.

We'd do it every now and again when one or the other of us needed a shag.

It was familiar and convenient.

Erm.... firstly, when were you last on the blob? (You don't need to answer but work it out) If you did the horizontal bop about 2 weeks after last time then you were in a slight-to-serious risk zone. Second question: how disastrous would a new PG be? If you are more than 72 hours post-coital, morning after pill won't work, if you are less than 5 days you can get an IUD fitted which apparently will do the trick.
Appreciate that loads of times nothing happens - but then, as I said to DS' father that Xmas season 3 years ago, oh, nothing will happen just this once (and I'm too old, and my bits don't work, and anyway I'm at the wrong end of my cycle)... and now I have my beloved DS anyway...

Thanks for answering, I know I have left things too late now, so Que Sera Sera to me. Would not be a disaster, but would not be a totally happy event either. I think the worst part would be admitting to my family that estranged hubby and I were "at it", why is it your parents always make things harder.

sex is sex,

you wanted it so did he, its good and familiar! enjoy it, as long as you both understand theres nothing more...

is there?

oops just read further on

have you done a test? when are you due?

Not due until after Christmas. Was in the "danger zone" part of my cycle, however, it was such a minute amount of time without protection that after all the trouble it took to get pg last time I will be totally amazed.

Let's hope Sod keeps his law to himself!

if you are preg you could always pretend its somebody elses...(ducks)

lol...never thought of that!

I'm not pg praise the lord! Good job as I hate the bloody bastard since he runined Christmas for my whole family. Cant wait to get the divorce ball rolling.