I am 40 and have always been able to orgasm during PIV and getting in the mood for sex was never an issue. I've been married to DH for 13 years with 2 dc age 9 and 12. Even when they were small we a good frequent sex life and have always had sex at least 3 times a week. Over the past few months though I have found it harder to get turned on and so not so able to orgasm and hoping that DH doesn't want sex. In that time DH has started a new job and his mind has very much been on that so he has been less present emotionally. Even though I understand this is not his fault I do resent it a bit and feel a bit like he has put family on hold a little to focus on his job (I know that sounds spoilt but being honest). I have also started training for a sporting event next summer so exercising couple of hours most days. I am not sure what is causing the change in my sex drive bit really need to sort it as it has always been an important part of our relationship.