to divorce or not

[dasherdancerandvixen]

my husband has just gone psycho on us. Ive a 4 year old daughter and an 7 week old ds. We are not in the uk, though im british.

he has left to go to a hotel for the night.

I think i made a mistake ging back to him, i shuldnt have given him another chance.

ds doesnt have a passport. ive n house in the uk. i think i need a divorce. im so scared.

Sounds like you made the decision, at least get away for a while. If you're scared that's not good.

Get your ds a passport pronto.

Dasher - I've no useful advice or experience of this, but just wanted to say I hope you are OK. Are you on your own or do you have other family members around?
Do you have someone you can talk through your options with in RL?

what does "just gone psycho" mean? are you talking violence? I hope you are ok.

If you want to get back to the UK asap then call the British Embassy - they should be able to help you with the passport issue

Is he also British or of local nationality ? It may make a difference as to whether you can legally leave the country with the children or not. Sounds like you need good legal advice ,to which the British Consulate/Embassy may be able to direct you.

Where are you, and what passport would your ds have? I'm in the US and to get a US passport both parents must be present, or have a notorized letter stating why one can't be present. Check the laws for whatever country you are in.

I hope that you are OK.

Its a difficult situation. Where are you? How long have you lived there? What nationality is your dh?

Its getting worse. I cant stsay with him. its miserable and scary and upsetting.
I want to be anonymous, so ill just say the far east. dh is local to this country, im british.
I checked, cant take dc out without permission.

Have ou gone to the embassy yet to get help getting ds a passport or info on getting custody if you divorce? Or if you are in danger if they can provide you refuge type information?

This is slightly devious but, can you reconcile temporarily, persuade him to sign forms for the children to leave the country, then get back to the UK? Say you need a holiday or something.

Definitely approach the British Embassy for advice. Don't hang about, get the advice.

Im going to get the passport sorted asap, and go the devious route.
Im coming back prob with nothing, to nothing. My family wont help. I hate himfor doing this to us.
I wont stay, he is reallyt upsetting, if not hurting the kds and dd said dhe didnt feel safe.he is totally controlling and very nasty. im terrified but want my life back

oh good luck. Take things slowly and do let us know if we can do anything from over here.