Anonymous message about affair, how likely from OW?

[Oopsthatstornit]

I got an anonymous message about husband's affair. Claiming to be from someone who works for him, about him and a colleague.

It is true. I am inviting speculation as to how likely it is to have been an random work person who messaged me, I have no connections really there, or the OW?

I feel like I am torn about the message being malign or benign, though the result is the same.

• go to work things anyway

Know of a situation where this happened and it was OW. But agree it hardly matters- LTB.

The sensible thing would be to not reply.

The not so sensible thing would be to reply saying thanks, yes he's been having affairs for years and it explains the horrible STD you've caught from him. None of that will go down well with the OW if it was indeed her

Tricky could be OW or could be someone doing it out of spite to your DH.

Have you confronted the OW about the affair?

Are you planning on staying with your DH even though he will still be working with her, are they still in contact now?

Really horrible situation for you to be dealing with

I'd say chances are it is true or they wouldn't have tried to hide their identity. Maybe time to be more vigilant? All men seem to do this btw, there isn't a 'type' x

OP, the best thing to do is leave him (or tell him to pack up and leave) and not get bogged down in any details. You can't trust him. He cheated on you, he admitted it. Don't get tangled up with this other woman even if she did send you the message. She is beneath you since she is so lacking in integrity that she would mess about with a married man. And a cheating husband is not worth agonizing over for any longer than is absolutely necessary.

That said, the detective in me can suggest that you reply to this message with "My husband has been having trouble with a woman chasing him. He's been trying to shake her off without antagonizing her but has taken legal steps already just in case. Thank you for letting me know, I do really appreciate it."

If it is someone looking out for you, they will provide you with more details. If it is the other woman, then...need I say more?

Wasnt there a thread like this yesterday? that was deleted?

More than likely to be the ow, although I knew of a situation years ago where someone was going to send an anonymous message to the wife about her husbands affair. It turned out she wasn't concerned for the wife but jealous for the fact that he showed interest in her first and she was loving the attention but he quickly to another colleague who took him up on his offer and they had full blown affair.
It was down to pure jealousy nothing more. Thankfully she was discouraged from doing this.

I'm not saying this is the case but puts another slant on it. How likely is it that ones of husbands colleagues would know you well enough to care.
Tbh if I heard about an affair taking place between two people but I didn't know the spouse(s) being cheated on, I wouldn't get myself involved as I wouldn't know him/her from Adam so wouldn't have any loyalty to them iyswim. I would imagine most people would think along the same lines.

This is why I am thinking it was possibly done in spite rather than out of concern. So looking more likely to be th ow.

In my case it seemed to be an anonymous 'well wisher' from H's work who telephoned me - OW claimed to H that she was 'devastated' that all had been revealed to me.

I found out a year later that she had made the call in the hope of instigating a split between us as my H was vacillating about whether to leave me or not. Ironically she did me a favour,despite the profound shock and agony on receiving the 'news', as at least I then knew what was really going on in my marriage.