Help he's on his way back

[wobblywingbatgirl]

Hi not much time so please read previous thread but he text this morning and said can he come back, just till sorted as he 'can't do it anymore' - how do I play this?!?! I don't think there's any hope for us as I will never trust him and in his words we were too broken to fix. Should I let him?! Literally on his way back now.

If you let him back he will know he can treat you however he wants.He will have zero respect for you as you will effectively be his backstop.Make him take responsibility for his actions (by sorting accommodation) and only then start to have conversations.

Do not let yourself be guilted into him coming back.Your pain will be reset to day 1 if you do, imagine that he comes back but still has her on side, how low will you feel? Today he will say anything to avoid not having a home so not believe that you are hearing sincerity.A decent man would not leave the bed of the OW and expect a warm bed with you.

He doesn't get to decide if he comes back.

I've said no. Firmly. No. Doors locked and he has replied that he respects my reaction and will stay somewhere else. That he'll be in touch to sort out next visit with Dc as he doesn't want her knowing the situation as she is happy. He wants to meet when I'm ready to discuss a way forward, albeit separately.

Feel relieved. Thanks for all your support and advice.

Well done.

Good for you

Well done.

So, if he has moved out from OW's place, his next step will be sorting himself some accommodation. I would imagine this is what he means by discussing a way forward.

You need to get some legal advice now about how you are going to split the marital assets, if you haven't already done so.

Well done