My DP calls me names. It's not all the time but it's enough to really bother me. Somtimes it's extreme, for example on a night out once he repeatedly called me a "little cunt". He called me a "slut" once because I was outside smoking too long. Those extreme cases are isolated incidents but there are regular "smaller" incidents such as what happened a few minutes ago. DP asked if I wanted a drink, I said yes a cup of tea please. He was only offering cold drinks apparently. He then told me I was lazy and bone idle. I leave the room to get something but I'm annoyed at this point and when I come back in he asks me a question which I answer with one word. He asks me what my problem is. I reply "it's you, you always call me names". A conversation follows which includes him telling me i am "insane" and "mental" and I've spoiled the night now. This is what bothers me the most, not only that it's ok to say these things but also that if I have any reaction at all then I'm insane.
When I'm angry he often tells me I need to look at myself or that he wishes he was recording me. He laughs also when I'm upset or angry. Like a sly, slow fake laugh that just makes me angrier. I've told him I want to split up as we clearly can't stand each other. I said this in anger but I think it's true. I suspect (though have no proof) that at times he's sullen and withdrawn on purpose just to keep me on my toes a bit? I can't even explain why I feel that. There are other small things that I've been noticing over the last few months that have been bothering me, like that he tends to use me as the butt of a joke when we are out with friends. I definitely have loads of flaws. I have a temper and he's definitely cleaner and tidier than me but Sometimes I feel that he might be manipulating me a bit? But I can't be sure.
Not sure what I am hoping to have answered here?