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mother trouble

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dorleans · 15/12/2006 16:21

Ive just had my mother to stay the night at my new place and shes nearly driven me insane.DS,two years old,has been having big feeding problems,vomiting up each day,mainly on fruit and veg.He went for a blood and stool test today at hospital so trying to solve the problem.Meanwhile,she has already diagnosed that its my fault as he is still breatfeeding,which mortifies her.So,in her mind,because he is still bfeeding he doesnt have to try to eat solids and Im the big guitly party!She doesnt for the life of her understand how toddlers eat,ie small meals and snacks,expecting him to wolf down a whole big plate of something and getting hysterical when he gives up too soon for her liking.He is a fussy eater sometimes but he gets a very varied diet.She is determined he will like soya milk,instead of cows which he seems to have an allergy to,although Ive told her he doesnt like it,or yogurt,or a million other things she wants him to eat.
She also sneared that he was very small,quoting other two year olds shes seen and how much better they are doing.In all it was putdown central,the only ray of light being when I told her it could be reflux and not my fault(never youre fault her retort)
and she eventually listened and grabbed onto that theory.
And madly enough,after two months of feeding hell,ds has not thrown up this week,like nothing was ever wrong in the first place,just as we start tests ect!Anyone else had/having nan/feeding/bfeeding hell?!!

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WinkyWinkola · 15/12/2006 18:40

I'm glad to hear your DS hasn't thrown up this week.

You poor thing! Like you need more guilt heaped upon you about your son's eating and his size. Whatever happened to loving support from your mum?

Why does it always have to be a blame thing and pointing the finger at the parents who try their best?

I'm surprised you didn't yell in her face, "Snout out!". I just learned that expression and I'm practising using it before I snarl it at my PIL next time they interfere.

bubsagrub · 15/12/2006 21:25

I dont'have anything helpful to suggest, just wanted to say I'm sorry your LO is going through a tough time with food and also that your mother is being so hard on you about it.

I remember having a kind of phobia about lunchtime at school when I was 4 or 5 yrs old - the dinner ladies only had to appear on the scene and I was crying and refusing to take the food (I just didn't like school dinners). It ended as suddenly as it started, and I don't remember how or why.

Hopefully this too will be a phase that passes.

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