I'm starting to actually not care......

[Mehtotheothers]

I'm a regular but have NC due to other posts which were a bit outing.

So my family are shit, dsis lives next door, dps always round, ignoring my dcs etc.

So it's Christmas Eve, they all have Christmas planned at dsis house and were not included, no probs but they are rubbing it in my face and it's getting worse because I'm not rising to it.

I strangely don't feel as hurt as I thought I would Be.

Here's to feeling stronger and realising that I don't need them in my life and it doesn't matter what they think.

for all and a unmumsnetty Christmas hug :)

What? Why are you not invited?
Anyway get your glad rags and look happy and mysterious

Ignore those fuckers.
i'm curious why you're not invited though.

It sounds like you will have a much better time on your own anyway! Have a good day with your DC

Invite friends round to yours for a pot luck?

Or have a chilled out evening with your DC.

Either way have a wonderful evening

Keep that demeanor and don't rise to it.
You are doing great.
Ignore, change the subject or walk away.
Have a lovely day and be glad you aren't with the fuckwits.
You really don't need them in your life.
Lock the doors and don't open them when they do come round. Which they no doubt will, to rub your nose in it more.
Smile and wave them away.

I'd move away. Far far away. They're probably massively jealous of you. You sound clever, interesting, the type of person who knows the difference between right and wrong. Some people think people who are smart are somehow up for being treated badly. I'd tell them to piss off by living your life brilliantly. It will really annoy them!

You're not invited? Why not?

Are they often unkind to you and yours like this?

It's great that you're becoming indifferent in one way but is it not so great because you're so used to their being unkind to you?

Move house?

they need to exclude you and make you unhappy to 'enjoy' xmas? Well! How pitiful are they ? When you are not upset by them , they will need to pick a better victim! How much longer are you going to live next door to the schoolyard bullies?

How did this pan out? Update when you can please.