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am I being oversensitive?

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geordiemacmincepie · 15/12/2006 11:39

Ok so I'm 5 months pregnant so am not sure whether this is just hormones...

Dp and I havent had a holiday for ages, and with being pregant chances are slipping away thick and fast, plus I dont really want to spend a fortune when we have a new car to buy and baby stuff..

So I suggested going to Barcelona in Jan, cheap flights with ryanair, nice hotel, few days, not too huge to enjoy it etc etc..

Dp showed absolutely no interest in going, have mentioned it a couple of times..monday asked him if he would like to go his response was "no" end of conversation... although he sometimes jokes a bit like this..

Anyways...the draw for the stupid football has just been made and lone behold his team have drawn Barcelona.. so now he's busy checking flights and such like cos we are off to Barcelona.... feel a bit pissed about this as firstly I'll be 30 weeks pregnant and secondly he wasnt intersted in just going with me for a short break, but will go to watch the football...and I can tag along if I want..

I mentioned that he wasnt interested in us going just to get away and I was told " not to start"

Am I being unreasonable ot is it just hormaones?

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oranges · 15/12/2006 11:51

He's being a bit of an idiot, but you are getting to go to Barcelona, and there are loads of lovely shops, spas, cafes etc that you could go and enjoy yourself in while football is on. I'd just go and have a great time, and next time you want a break, just book it because you have to support your favourite retailers or something!

lulumama · 15/12/2006 11:57

agree with oranges....you can while away the hours, strolling round the shops, have a coffee and a sit down whenever you fancy, it will be lovely...he knows he;s in the wrong, hence, the 'don;t start comment.

so go, enjoy and don;t stress !

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geordiemacmincepie · 15/12/2006 12:05

I just feel that he only wants to go cos of the football... and not to spend time with me... and hasnt given any thought to the fact that I will be 30 weeks pregnant... but you are right. I'll stop crying like a big girl.

Thanks xxx

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oranges · 15/12/2006 12:21

Its not that you are whinging at all - I think you've every right to be peeved, but there is no point in sulking and not enjoying a holiday. It will be the last time either of you can go off like this, so just go and make sure you have a great time! And remember, you are probably a little hormonal too.

WinkyWinkola · 15/12/2006 18:35

Eh? He's so blatantly only going now to watch the footy! That's not right, surely? I don't blame you for being cheesed off, Geordie. Totally reasonable.

This is probably one of the last chances you'll get to go away together on a city break - wish I'd gone away more before DS - and you won't even be spending the time together? I don't suppose you envisaged yourself wandering around Barcelona by yourself, did you? You could do that any time.

I reckon you should avoid a row but invite some friends along (including male non-football mad variety) since DP isn't interested in hanging out and exploring with you. If DP gets annoyed, well it's not as if he's going to be around anyway, is he?

edam · 15/12/2006 18:38

I'd be pissed off too. He ignores you when you suggest a holiday but the moment he has a reason for going suddenly it's all on? Selfish, selfish, selfish.

Btw, have you checked that the airline will let you fly at 30 weeks? Can't remember what the limits are...

tinkerbellie · 15/12/2006 18:40

i agree with winkywinkola too, i would be sooo mad if dh ahd done that

but just go and enjoy yourself

DingDongDraculaOnHigh · 15/12/2006 18:54

You could always go to the football with him it is good fun you know!

Trifle · 15/12/2006 18:58

I wouldnt go although I'd be mad as hell. From experience wives and football dont mix. For some reason they have to get to the match at least 4 hours in advance which usually involves some bar nearby and then the same again afterwards when they have to analyse every kick, penalty, yellow card etc etc. If you are expecting your dp to turn up just before kick off and return to you immediately afterwards you are going to be very disappointed. The solution is to either take one of the other wives with you so at least you'd have some company or book yourself a nice relaxing pampering weekend at home. Being in the company of a load of drunken football fans is not pleasant. Neither is Barcelona but I'm just biased as I hate the place.

DingDongDraculaOnHigh · 15/12/2006 19:06

you could be WAGS

AttilaTheMeerkat · 15/12/2006 19:45

FYI:-

Ryanair requires a doctor's certificate confirming that the passenger is fit and healthy and specifying the date that the baby is due. If a passenger between 28 and 36 weeks pregnant arrives to check-in without the required doctor's certificate, they must obtain same from their doctor prior to being accepted for the flight. If they cannot obtain same prior to their Check-In Deadline, their ticket may be revalidated for travel on the next available flight, after they produce the required certificate.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 15/12/2006 19:46

Is your partner selfish in other areas as well?.

QuootiepiesChristmasName · 15/12/2006 19:53

oh no. You're right to be annoyed, the big meanie. I'd say go and just take advantage of it! Get plenty of rest while he's off watching the football & make sure he leaves you plenty of spending money! On the other hand, you'll have to make sure your OK to fly and tolerate the heat in Spain at 30 weeks... {{hugs}}

KimiTheChristmasCracker · 15/12/2006 19:55

When my cousin was getting married he gave his wife to be a list of football fixtures and told her to work it out round them! Also holidays must revolve around his beloved man united and he goes to almost every game, (all the way from somerset!!)

divastrop · 15/12/2006 20:40

i think you should arrange to go away with friends in january like you wanted to,then sweetly tell him to enjoy his break cos it'll be the last one he gets till the baby is 18!!!

but im also pregnant and hormonal so you probably shouldnt listen to me...

Trifle · 15/12/2006 20:44

Tolerate the heat in Spain?!!! Barcelona in January, it'll be bloody freezing.

MistletoeGolightly · 15/12/2006 20:46

I think you have every right to be cross! Personally in your situation I wouldn't go - at 30 weeks you will be pretty big and tailing around after a bunch of drunk blokes talking football will be boring to say the least. BUT what I would do is go somewhere amazing like a spa for the same weekend with my best friend or mum or something. It may well be your last chance to pamper yourself for quite a while! In short, don't join 'em, beat 'em.

bubsagrub · 15/12/2006 21:14

Maybe being a bit narked is reasonable, considering, but perhaps you should just let it go - on the basis that you're wondering yourself, if your response is unreasonable...

its not worth getting yourself stressed out - I had a couple of right ding-dongs with my DP when preg and they were exhausting and definitely storm in a teacup type things.

QuootiepiesChristmasName · 15/12/2006 23:36

oh. Didn't realise it would be January!

Lwatkins · 16/12/2006 01:21

You have every right to feel peeved - i certainly would. It was a bit incensitive of your Dp to do this. However, if your desperate for a holiday and still wanna go then go. But don't go to trail after him - treat yourself. Go shopping, go to spa's, get massages - you know, get pampered! Let him watch his football, but make sure he knows your not gonna stick around to watch it with him. Though i suppose this kind of defeats the object of going doesn't it? Would have been nice for you to go, chill out and spend time with each other before baby comes.
Men and there football!

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