Working Mums too tired to have sex with Husbands

[Charisma]

Hi

Did anyone read the article in Saturday's Daily Mail newspaper on working mums being too tired to make time to make love with their partners? There were 4 working women in fairly high powered or long distance jobs who were giving their thoughts on the matter under fairly similar circumstances. They all felt that they were too tired to find time for hubby. Their ages varied between 30 qnd 45.

In our case, there is some truth in it coz we are now making love a lot less than when we first met, but IMO, there's more to it than just me working. We have 3 sons, we both work full time (though not on the same days so even our days off do not coincide!) ?

My husband brought it to my attention and asked me whether I thought it was any different for non working mums. Any thoughts anyone??

My partner does almost all of the housework. However due to the fact that I work at least 15 hours a day we rarely have sex during the week during term time.

At weekends and during holidays we are at it like rabbits.

good work katycarr.

SGB: it does make sense for men to do their share or better of the housework ....but from experience i can say that DP also needs to be physically fit + sleep all of which is difficult...otherwise you could do as much cooking, cleaning and gargening and will still be experiencing drought

I said almost excactly that to my DH last night!I know just how you feel. He didnt get it at all tho :(

Is this the oldest running thread on MN?!

What azzie said.

Sunday DH fancied some 'attention'. By the time I got to bed, I'd supervised DS#2's bath and hairwash, rugby-tackled him to bed, read to DD and then had a chat before she went to sleep, read to DS#2, got myself ready for bed ....and there was DH with a stiffie and a big smile

So much of the tiring stuff has to happen after work anyway - hw, dinner and bedtimes for example, I guess it wouldn't make much difference if I wasn't working.

My DP does literally everything recently (housework, cooks something amazing every night for when I'm home, runs a bath/puts on shower and greets me with a glass of wine after picking me up from the station, every day) because I've started working 15 hour days. I love him so much for it and he will often give me a long massage with oils and candles without it being a way of getting sex, just because I'm tired. I think it's because of this that I always try to find time for sex and fully make up for the week at the weekends - I think so many men need to realise that foreplay is a continuous act and without being considerate and looking after their DW sex may well become another chore. I know from past relationships there is NOTHING more irritating than a man presuming sex will happen just because they are ready for it and then sulking if it doesn't happen.

Charisma DP works full time i am at collage part time and am at home with 2 dc's the rest of the time.
When it comes to sex i feel the same as Azzie, my children are like small mountain goats, my bum only has to hover near the sofa and they are there ready to climb, hug, kiss, squeeze and generally be all over me, so when bedtime comes and DP wants to be all over me i physically and mentally cannot do it i just selfishly want to be by myself with a good book or a hot bath.

I know its the 'white elephant' in the room and dp is always dying to discuss it but im just not up to it anymore, the discussion goes the same way, we identify the problem but we cant see any solution. At the end of the day i think i could honestly live without sex and it wouldn't cross my mind.

Think this happens to most couples, so many things in life are far more important. Mums have to take the balance of home life, keep kids, home, pets, business happy then to add to it hubby expects you to switch on in a second.

My OH is demanding for it and usually requests it in the day when he pops home. The minute he opens the door his first words are "fancy a bit?" - me not really but have to oblige to keep the peace and know that the pressure is off for a few days.

As a SAHM I am shocked by my lack of free time and relaxation time (had no idea how hard this would be!) Luckily both my young boys are fast asleep by 8pm and hardly wake.

I'm also one of those who would happily live without it. Makes no difference to my relationship with the OH apart but men feel different.