I posted about my "Friend" a few weeks ago..I thought his behaviour was due to Bi Polar disorder but it became apparent it wasnt that, shortly after a friend of mine rang me up and said she believed that he had NPD and beged me to walk away, despite the stuff that I posted about happening, I still want back to him..
He terrifies me yet walking away feels like Ive gone cold turkey on a class a drug..Ive blamed myself for all his behaviour, I honestly dont know my own mind right now, the suff he has said to me..I struggle with..I ended up at the GPS on anti depressents two weeks ago after I hit an all time low and didnt realise why.
My friends say Ive been victim of a Narcopath..I dont know..all I know is that I wish I had never met him and I dont know how to move forward.
Back story : I met him on a dating site, he was stunningly beautiful with long hair, he was younger and I was flattered that someone like that had shown an interest in me. However he didnt arrange to meet but asked me to add him on fb, I noticed there were a lot of wome on there.
He messaged me after a few days of obviously checking out my profile then spent two weeks messaging me constantly..I noticed that he rarely asked about me but spent a lot of time complimenting me and talking about himself. He is a musician and spent a lot of time telling me about his muisc, then eventually initiated a meet, I was flattered I wont lie, yet I am an intelligent woman and chose to ignore the red flags.
I went to his, he made me lunch and talked at me for 2 hours, told me he didnt like people and hadnt seen anyone except his family and work for months. While I was there he demonised his childs mother which I thought was worrying and also went on about his sexual prowess, invited me round the next night , making it clear that as far as he was concerned if sex was on the cards that was fine by him but he didnt want anything serious..
I went round the next night and obviously the inevitable happened..he told me that he didnt do one night stands ad there would be a repeat performance, I stayed the night and he invited me back a few days later.
When I went back a few days later the next day he virtually threw me out of his house..it was bizarre, then proceeded to ignore me online for about two days..(he lives on fb when not at work)..He sporadically messaged me for the next week before inviting me round for coffee and then the cycle stared up again.
As time went on, he started asking me round more and more, he spoke about me as though I was his GF buying food in for me etc, I had a toothbrush in the bathroom, We started doing more things together, we would spend eves curled up on the sofa together, I stayed over with my daughter and spent time with him and his child...but...he was constantly reminding me it wasnt a relationship, we were not together.
He seemed to be in constant contact with other very young women on fb and almost flaunted his contact with them to me, he would tell me repeatedly that if he met someone else he wanted to have sex with, he would do it. One minute I seemed to be flavour of the month, next I was getting the silent treatment. Although it was a FWB arrangement, I didnt really understand what was going on as he seemed to move and blur the boundries and I lived in constant fear of being "dropped" for the next FWB.
When ever I asked him something like did he still want to get together or something he would be quite nasty, saying I was paranoid which was hurtful, he only ever referred to me as a friend and when we were out he would flirt with women in front of me and when we went away for the weekend he openly flirted with one of my friends.
i started to believe I was paranoid and stopped asking..but felt constantly anxious as he started clearing off at weekends and I was left biting my nails wondering what he was doing..if I ever asked him if he was sleeping with other women I would get the paranoia card again.
He told me another woman had been messaging and wanted to meet up, and got very angry talking about her. His relationship with his childs mother seemed to be very toxic,,he seemed to hate her and had no lasting relationships and didnt have a good word to say about any exes.
when ever I stayed over, he would usually kick me out next day and there was never an arrangement to see me again..sometimes he would expect me to hang around..saying his door was always open and his home was my home..I just never knew where I was with him.
The constant hot/cold silent treatment etc was exhausting then I went away abroad and he seemed very clingy..for the week before I went away..he took me to and from the airport and when I got back fussed over me saying how much he had missed me..then the next day virtually threw me out of the door.
I was totally bemused by his behaviour and called round there at the weekend, he was hostile and said he didnt want company, when I asked if I had done something wrong, he started yelling at me, slamming his fists down on the workstops and calling me a stupid paranoid bitch..saying why dont you listen to me..
I was frightened and left, two days ater he got in touch as though nothing had happened, during this time another of his female fb friends moved up to the area , I had spoken to her too and she implied to me that she would be getting into a relationship of sorts with him when she moved up..it all started to make sense. A week later he sent me a text asking me go round for coffee..I went and he was hostile, didnt really seem to want me there. I thought maybe it was an off day, so called round again the next, bearing in mind at the time I thought he had Bi Polar..he wouldnt even let me in the door.
When I got home he messaged me accusing me of being a stalker, I was gobsmacked.
The next day he was commenting on my fb and putting complimentary comments on my profile pics, the day after, he went to the other womans and spent the weekend there.
I went to his house an said I knew he had moved on and he totally denied saying yet again I was paranoid..then spent the next week telling me I was a nutjob, paranoid etc..I was beside myself..I realised that for the last few weeks he had been belittling me in fb messages and Id ignored it..then came the coffee invite.
Foolishly I went, I asked him straight out if the FWB arrangement was over and he just said it was irrelevant..denied anything with the other woman...and then told me he had never wanted me round, he hadnt wanted me to stay the night and that he had enough of me as I was in his face all the time and took the piss..I was devastated as Id only ever gone there on his invitation. He then had the cheek to talk about showing me something "the next time I came round ".
I fell apart, really believing I was all those things, Im beside myself that I dont see him anymore even though I know he was teating me badly..my friends say he is an abuser and I should block all contact with him..he is still on my fb and comments and likes all my stuff..I know should just delete..but its finding the strength to do it.
I have had to repair my friendships as he isolated me from my friends,
He still messages using the pet name he chose for me..I dont know what to do 
Since then I have found out the whole time he was "seeing" me..he had been messaging other woman giving them the same lines, begging to meet..inc the woman HE claimed was pressing to meet him..it was all lies.everyone is saying I need to cut immediate contact ..