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dd has won a national competition...

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tomkat · 15/12/2006 10:27

...so why is it STILL too much flaming effort for my m.i.l. to come over? I sent her a text to invite her, and the reply was "do you mind if I don't? I'm knackered and have got a lot to sort out for xmas". Yes, actually. I DO mind. If it was any other grandchild, she would bloody well go. She has been up here once under her own steam in 6 years. She doesn't drive, but lives close to the bus route. I am not asking for her to move mountains to get here, she lives approx. 2 miles away!

Right (I'm angry, so I apologise in advance if this isn't too coherent). Dd has won a party at her nursery, there will be a celebrity there and some other special guests and I thought it would be nice to get a few family members over to see dd with them and just to be there for her.

In sharp contrast, the few members of my family that live further away than m.i.l. are over the moon and can't wait to come along.

I suppose in my ramblings here, I'm trying to stop myself from saying something to her that I will regret... my mobile is sat here on the table, and it is SOOOO tempting to send a rude text back, as she can't be bothered to come and see her granddaughter have her 15 mins of fame

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catsmother · 15/12/2006 10:50

Will you DD actually notice if her Grandma isn't there ? If so, I can understand why you feel upset, but if not, my attitude would be to say "stuff her" and not bother asking/inviting her to anything else again.

I hope your DD has a lovely day as I'm sure she will and it sounds like she'll have lots of happy, excited family around her.

It's the old bat's loss.

ChristmasPresence · 22/12/2006 22:22

I should forget all about MIL if I were you. It's her loss if she can't be bothered. My MIL is much the same, although it stems from DP and I not being married. I just ignore her now, and feel a bit sorry for her that she's missing out on so much. Well done to your DD and I hope you all really enjoy the day

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