Hello I'm moving over from a posting I made on the divorce thread, bit premature as we are still together. In brief I am married and have been so for 3 years, I've been with my partner for over 10 years and we have 3 beautiful children. He is italian and I have been living with him in Italy for 10 years. A few weeks back I found explicit and loving texts on his phone by chance. When questioned DH confessed to meeting this woman 6 months previously. He claimed she approached him for his number and it went from there. He said he has never actually met up with her and it was just silly texts. We were not sleeping together due to many factors. One being his addiction to porn and the fact he only slept in bed with me once or twice a year. On paper we are a great couple but in private he is very controlling. My kids love their daddy obviously and we have just moved to a beautiful new home. My last scrap of pride tells me I should leave. I found condoms which he then said weren't his. He has begged me for another chance. I slept with him and perhaps that was the emotion of it all. It reassured him he was forgiven. But now a few weeks on I am feeling very doubtful. Im in uk for xmas and honestly I cant face going back even if I wreck everyones lives. Or do I suck it up and carry on. There are 3 little people to consider. 