A year ago enormous cracks appeared in my marriage. I was utterly utterly desperate. I think my situation was up there with the most severe abusive/controlling marriages that've been on MN for a while & you all rallied round. When I thought 'there's no way I can do this', when I clawed myself along by my fingertips, you were all here to help me & keep me going. Now here I am, Deckthehallswithdesperation has turned into the Queenofhappiness! I am divorced. My kids are well. I am safe & secure. And most unbelievably of all, I have a new man. We're spending Christmas together. He's so loving/caring & generous I'm on cloud 9. Thank you so much everyone for pulling me through the most horrific experience of my entire life. I was bathed in acid & roasted in the fires of hell by my ex.