DH is a selfish t**t ,I need sympathy!!!!!

[carolcoles]

Why is my other half such a selfish thoughtless twat.

We are newly married and have a 5 month old, have just moved house because of his job (forces) so in a new place, know no-one, pretty much in the house all day every day, dogs being shits and he strolls in to tell me that the "drinks" on base tonight "might" end up going into town knowing full well that he's got a night out with the lads booked on Tuesday night for a big piss up.

For some reason he was surprised that I was hacked off, never mind that we can't afford two big nights out in one week but when is my f*ing night out ????? Then when I kept on he tells me he knows he's taking the piss but thought it was worth pushing his luck in case I didn't get mad.

Why am I always the one who has to lose my temper in order for him to see sense????? I'm his wife not his fucking mother.

sorry rant over now!!!!!! Anyone else with one of these men who are incapable of independant thought?

hmmm

So is he going?

what does "dogs being shits" mean??

hum...not very good behaviour from him.

at least he's admitting he KNOWS he's taking the piss and thought he'd push it.

I would explain to him that now your circumstances are changed your limits on what you will accept, piss-taking wise, have become somewhat limited.

If he behaves well you can give him "wife credits", like golden stars - and once he has 10 of these, he can go out again.

Of course, I'm partly joking, but I know a couple who do this, tongue-in-cheek, but actually, it works out quite well!

Actually, apart from the money aspect, I wouldn't worry about dh having two nights out. Christmas is only once a year. Can you arrange a night out with the other wives on the base?

no nor would I

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The dogs barks continually when I go out and I thought I'd sorted the problem but the lady next door called today to say he's started up again so another thing to wind me up. Stuck in the house again now until I can get it sorted.

He's not going into town tonight now, it's not that I mind him going out but he says "You have a night out then?" who the f with I only know one person and they're more skint than us so she wouldn't be able to afford a night out.

That's not really his fault though is it?

Could you maybe do a babysitting swap with other skint person and go out with dh?

er, so long as he's not out on the absolute lash twice a week every week i would let it go. its christmas. i guess he works hard. it doesn't mean that he doesn't appreciate you.

the issue really is - when is your night out? i'm sure you wouldn't have married him if he wasn't the kind of man who'd be happy for you to go out and enjoy yourself too. try to get something fun sorted for yourself.

dog prob just anxious from house move?

Marymillington and Dingdongdraculaonhigh I know your both right and it's not the going out that bothers me so much as the lack of consideration, normally he is a love but every now and then he drops an absolute clanger and doesn't see what is wrong for example -with wanting a £200 exhaust for his car(8months preg)£50 computer game when skint etc if you see what I mean. I feel like I'm always the mean one who is telling him NO and I hate it.

Dog prob- mental springer, partly move but we've been here 6 weeks now so I would have thought he'd be more settled.

Hi Carolcoles, I know where you're coming from I moved to be with my DP and didn't like the place knew noone to go out with and 'pined'for 'Home'.

I remember huge arguments when he would have a 'works' night out with no partners.

After a couple of years I changed jobs and met some people to socialise with. Usually at home but great fun, no baby sitting probs or high bar prices. But we would still dress up!

Have you joined any clubs, mother and baby, wives club?! Dog club? Anything?

I've found you meet your next best friends quite randomly.

We have now moved back home!

Good luck and try to talk about this at a time when you don't feel angry.