Did he use me for sex?

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Basically we had sex yesterday morning.
He stayed the night on Tuesday night.
Well he was at mine all day Tuesday till Wednesday mid day.
On the Tuesday night he was really affectionate(before sex) he was hugging me,kissing me etc.
We had sex on the Wednesday morning and after he went to the toilet.
I turned over and closed my eyes( still awake) he came in bed and fell asleep( he was hungover too)
He never hugged me or kissed me.
Then I got up and got ready.
Told him he had to make a move then he got dressed.
As he was leaving he leaned forward for me to kiss him on the cheek.
That was it.
I read if after sex he doesn't cuddle you or kiss you there is no feelings involved.
I'm so upset :-(

Maybe so but it would put me off.

I would not kiss anyone on the mouth if I had recently vomitted.

Would you kiss someone on the mouth straight after vomiting??

No I wouldn't.
Tbh didn't think of that till I got some replies on here.
I think I over think and over analyse things.
I've been used in the past you see and worry that he could do the same.

If you have a history of being used, why are you still shagging men before you know they're genuinely interested in you?

You have a choice, you know. You do have a say in all this. You could wait, see how things go, feel sure that he really likes you and THEN shag. You have control here, you don't have to find yourself in this vulnerable position over and over again.

We have been talking for about 4 months and got to know each other well.
He said all the right things.
I genuinely felt feelings (if that makes sense)
The night I said to myself no sex tonight.
I just felt ready to have sex with him.
I felt like we had known each other years.
The doubts do creep in when I think about previous guys and daft choices I've made.

talking for 4 months online or in person?
all's going well as far as I can see!

Texting for 4 months.

1. Angst the day after drinking is one of the downsides of it.

1. I gate cuddling

Sorry, posted too soon.

I hate cuddling all night - I can't sleep if I do. It's not that I don't love DH, I just want to sleeeeeeep!

Had you met him before?

Yeah we had met before.
We used to work together but just got chatting again 4 months ago when he sent me a message on Facebook.

Texting isn't building a relationship, is it? You must see that, surely? 😐

Did he take you out on a date even once?

well obviously if you worked together you must know him quite a bit. If it was just texting, that'd be not so good.
But really he couldn't kiss you when feeling very sick! And he is still texting, so see how it goes.

I wouldn't want to cuddle if I was feeling hungover and sick. He probably didn't want to kiss you properly because of his breath.

From texting to sex with nothing in between, except a bout of vomiting on your carpet.

The stuff dreams are made of.

Your behaviour and actions should match your desires and expectations.

If you enjoyed the sex then accept that for what it was. Casual sex is probably all this will be, there's no real relationship here.

No we never went out on a date.
Maybe he did only want sex :-(

I don't really know what to say. It doesn't sound like a very nice experience, and I personally don't think you should be in any rush to repeat it.

I'd learn from it and move on.

Hope you are ok.

I hate men sometimes!
Might turn lesbian!

You don't have to be quite that drastic...!

Seriously, read a good book on dating. Try "Not Tonight Mr Right" by Kate Taylor. It's a light, fun, short guide to getting lovely dates, good treatment, and knowing you're the girl of his dreams. It's really positive and uplifting. Kindle it this weekend, instead of moping or waiting for this joker to text. :)

www.amazon.co.uk/Not-Tonight-Mr-Right-Girls-ebook/dp/B002RI9K68/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

OK, flippant comment about hating men and turning lesbian BUT...

Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.

You'd end up hating women.

Don't get drunk and sleep with men who haven't even gone out on a date with you.

It's not a moral judgement. I would quite happily sleep with someone - but I know I wouldn't be obsessing about reading that no kissing means it's just sex.

Think about that you WANT.

Do you really want sex with a man you barely know who is so drunk that he vomits on your floor the morning after?

That's just grim.

Stay off the alcohol, don't invite men back when you haven't even dated them.

Don't be all "I hate men" - recognise that you're responsible for your choices, not them.

You sound like a young 23

Honestly, try and stop this internal angst

Hungover, unwell and morning breath.

Bad combination.

He is still contacting you. That is a good sign.

But you've got the issues. Men/women/anything else the issue is you. By blaming other people you're not addressing the problem so you're trapped in a vicious cycle.

You sound really obsessive! If you don't want to be used for sex don't allow yourself to be. It hardly sounds like a fairytale romance! I don't think I could be attracted to someone so drunk/hungover they threw up on my carpet!