Am I being a prude?

[InvoluntaryCelibacy]

Hi I'm new to dating and have been speaking to a man for about a week and a half and twice he has tried to the steer the conversation in a way in which he can send me a photo of him shirtless

Should I let him? I suppose it could be flirting. I'm a bit out of a touch with flirting having not engaged with a man in any way for nearly 2 years.

I have tried to steer the conversation away myself because I just don't know what looking at a chest is supposed to do for me. Am i supposed to be turned on by a picture of a chest? I'd much rather save the sexting crap and flirt in person (when i can find the time - single parent)

Am i being a prude? what do you think?

Cool thank you for your replies. An extra element to this is that I've had an ex boyfriend threaten to post nudes on Facebook, and, even more lovely - he threatened to send them to my dad! Charming fellow. I don't pick em well!

I hope your ex is aware how illegal that is what a prick

hi op,
I did the internet dating thing for a while and I totally hear you. Even on the 'pay for' sites sometimes the frigging profile picture is a shirtless one!? WTF is that about? Is there anything sadder than a selfie in a shitty bathroom mirror with the phone on view and no shirt on....so unattractive!
My dp and I would sext after we'd started dating but not a week and a half into chatting!
I totally agree with pp that it absolutely indicates his thinking on the relationship he wants and maybe prioritises sex way to highly for this stage IMO. Having dated a number of knob heads its so worth moving on and finding the right guy.
Good luck!

Same it was made illegal just after he threatened it I think. It was back in summer 14.

wowis he wanted to send it me show me 'what he's offering'. What he's offering??? I just replied 'I'm not shallow'. Im more into who they are than their fleshy bits

Yuk! You hardly know him what a massive show off! Grim!

I can't imagine anything worse than a dick pic, an elderly lady once told me 'there is nothing beautiful in the male form' I think she was referring to Nureyev in his ballet tights - and she definitely has a point!

Actually, I'd be tempted to reply 'oh what's that, it looks like a dick, only smaller'

I had a brief dabble in OLD and any bloke in his profile picture with his shirt off was an instant no. Some posing wanker thinking he's God's gift, no thanks.

I like sexual banter with a boyfriend a lot but with a bloke I've not met - no chance.

OP if you have different views on these sort of pictures before you've met it's unlikely you will click in person IMO. He seems like a letch and no decent bloke hints for boob pictures before you've met unless he just wants a shag.

Really?? I've never been offered a photo like that, I can't think of anything I'd be less interested in, apart from a photo of someone's big toe perhaps. It wouldn't be my thing either so I think it's fine to tell him that and then perhaps let him jog on...

Thanks for your opinions I agree I think I'm just wasting time with this guy. I'm looking for something a bit more substantial than a fb so these things are definitely a ref flag. I met him once for a coffee he seemed alright. I just don't want to end up wasting time with this one guy if it's not going to go anywhere because there's ample opportunity at the moment and I'm sure it'll just reduce as I age