my dh doesnt seem to want to be here

[moljam]

when hes about hes rude to me and the children,short tempered(not that im always calm but hes bad),forever finding stuff wrong and just generally doesnt seem to want to be here.ive tried talking to him wondering if its stress of xmas or something but he doesnt want to talk.it feels like were living on eggshells,dont do that it might annoy daddy.is it just that time of year or what else could be up?i dont really know why im putting this on here,just need to chat i suppose.i feel like single parent who happens to live with ex!

Hmm, it could be stress relating to work or something, and he doesn't want to tell you because he'll think you'll worry, or because he thinks he should be able to sort it out, but he's kind of drowning in it.

If you can't talk to him about it, how about trying to send him a note/email? along the lines of

Darling, I think you seem to be worried about something, You are sooooo unhappy at the moment. This is making me unhappy too. Can we sort it out together, after all we are a team?
Please lets talk about it, so we can all have a lovely Christmas together.
Love you.

Sorry if that seems yukky, but it's an approach that works for us.

not yukky but dont think hed be bothered by it.if i ask him whats up and tell him i feel alone i get told to f off.nice

Meant to say, if he uses that to tell you whats wrong, all well and good.

If he chucks it back in you face, then you tell him that his behaviour is unacceptable, and he has to shape up or ship out.

thanks!why does he have to be so stupid right near christmas!decorations are up ,tis the season to be jolly and dh is being an idiot!