Never really had brilliant relationship with my Mum and my Dad quite controlling, wouldn't call it a loving marriage. They 'stuck' with it as that generation often did.
I cant go into everything as would be here all eve.
My youngest son is currently ill (see other posts). Its devastating to see and emotionally draining. My son is from my second marriage (divorced). My Dad 'hated' my second husband and both my parents had little to do with my two youngest sons from that marriage. It hurt me terribly and as my boys grew up, they remembered and realised that really my parents weren't grandparents to them. I divorced because the marriage was difficult (exh aspergers) and at times abusive. Parents never visited, never took an interest until I managed to divorce after 16years.
My parents are very critical, never praised, favoured my older brother etc.
My two youngest boys are quite bright like their Father, this was always critisised, It has always been about my older brothers kids....neither of them went to uni(not that it mattered) but the thought of my two youngest boys doing well and going to uni really agitated my Dad. As it is my youngest is now ill after experiencing with drugs(another story) and I have a 'different son'.I dont know the prognosis yet.
its all very upsetting. Now suddenly my parents have become 'interested', and Im finding it difficult to accept their 'care'. I couldnt help but tell him. Shame they didnt show interest when they were small boys!! Just before my youngest son became ill, he talked about the lack of love from grandparents and it grieves me!!
They were supposed to be coming for Xmas, but they rang and said 'oh its all too much for you'....My reply was, that its was their choice. All my children and two small grandchildren will be here but I cant say for sure that I wont find the day emotional. (was my young sons fav time of year, he may be with his DaD) Since then, NC from my Mum and but of a rift. I'm just sick of all the years of not speaking my mind to my parents....My relationship with my own children is so different!
Sometimes I wish I had NC with parents as they feel very toxic.....though could it be partly my fault?