Dumped at Christmas

[UmbongoUnchained]

I just never have any luck. Can I have a hug?

Fabulous [santa]

Big big hugs

Damn him, I'm in bed sobbing my heart out (again) while he's off at the gig we were supposed to go to together. I want to tell him exactly how shit he's made me feel but honestly, what's the point?

Awww gast
That's really shitty that he's gone without you.
Put on some Beyoncé. I am feeling like a strong independent woman that don't need NO man. And looking at going back to Uni... Think I'm having a crisis!

How awful. I'm sending you lots of hugs. Let yourself be sad, cry it out and talk to friends(and us here!). You're going to be ok.

Thanks parker
I had a little cry last night but I'm actually surprisingly ok this morning. I think maybe I knew deep down it wasn't meant to be. We had very different parenting ideas.

I've got history with Valentine's Day, which pisses me off cos I think it's a load of shite so that adds insult to injury!

A week before the last one, I got a text "not feeling it for Valentine's could you handle just being friends?"

And years ago the on again off again love of my life (I thought) sent me a card with the wrong postcode and when he didn't hear from me on the day (I didn't want to scare him off as he hadn't sent anything to me) he called up his ex and got back with her. Which went v v badly. Pity

There's never a good time!

Point is, I'm over them both, as will you be.

And you won't look back in Jan or Feb and think "wish I hadn't bothered fitting him in over Xmas".

I disagree with the bubble bath / chocolate / alcohol / chick flick types. Fine if that's your thing but it's a pretty boring thing to me. Get a babysitter and book yourself onto a indoor climbing course with your free time. Great fun, and you'll feel strong about your achievements when you reach the top!

Thank you :)
Because I am oh so dramatic, I've used this as the kick up the ass I need and decided to train as a hairdresser. Something I've always wanted to do so why the hell not? Start building a career for me and my baby!

That sounds good !

No idea what I'm doing though

That is exciting.

Go you!

Hello, I need a bit of virtual handholding. I miss my ex so much and today I've been torturing myself by dwelling on all the things I could possibly have said or done to make this happen. I'm just so sad that he's cut me dead, we used to talk/text all the time and it's hard going from that to nothing.

I understand. You lose a friend. I used to think oh I must tell x that and then remembered that we were no more. That part actually passed quite quickly. Keep posting if you feel lonely. Even contributing to chat threads passes the time!

Yeah that's the problem, I miss him as a friend more than the intimate stuff. But there's no way I could just be his friend at the moment.

He texted you and asked if he could still pop over and see you occasionally, a.k.a pop over for a casual shag? FUCKING CUNT!

Hugs and girl power to you, OP

Only just seen your update!
Yay!!!! Training as a hairdresser is a really great way to treat yourself and distract yourself. How fab to read!

gast big big hugs to you! I know how you feel. Try and make loads of plans with friends and forget about him. Thinking of you

And thankyou everyone else for the support! I'm actually feeling surprisingly ok about it all so maybe I wasn't as in love with him as I thought...
Hair dressing apprenticeships start in September so got a year to save some pennies and get going wahoo!!

Yeah I've gone from txt all the time wen I was seeing him now down to nothing he's even blocked me on Fb / twitter.I've moved on now with a lovely man I've been seeing over a year.

Good to hear ilovesprouts. I'm so desperate to contact him I'm trying to think of a valid reason, no matter how tenuous. Keep telling me NO

Would've loved tobe a hairdresser . Something you confit around children.

Go for it. You can combine it with nails and wedding make up once you've got the hairdressing under your belt.

I know it's different if you have a child but my cousin travelled the world as a hairdresser in the salons of Cunard....and met my lovely cousin now the father of her much wanted son.

So a triple whammy! Who knows where yours will take you!