Am I wrong? Can't stand his behaviour

[ApparentlyTooFat]

OK my partner and I have a little girl, only 10 weeks old and I had a traumatic birth.
In labour for 4 days, emergency section with blood transfusion. I suffered from depression before she was born and have been diagnosed with PND.

I look after her during the day and he will sometimes pick up in the evenings when I'm home.

I've always been overweight and was like this when we meet 2 years ago. Obviously I've still good pregnancy weight. He's been quite rude about it, saying he's going to weigh me every week (to which I said fuck off) and this morning I was talking about how my body changed during pregnancy and he said 'well that's no need to have a fat stomach forever'.
Bit harsh and it upset me. I will admit I had a sulk and went out, leaving him with our daughter. I came back, they were out. I had a text just saying they were out so I called him and asked where they were. They weren't far so they came home.
I made us both a drink and went to talk to him. I said why I was upset but he said I heard it wrong and he wanted us to work together on me losing weight. I got upset further, I just wanted an apology.

He started to say I was obese when I asked him to leave. Admittedly I definitely AM overweight bit too call me obese? I'm about 2 stone overweight, which is the same as when we met!

I just told him to go if my body disgusts him that much. I'm not sure what to do, this is just awful and I'd rather be alone than with someone who thinks it's ok to insult me so harshly about my weight, but am I wrong??

Sorry for any typos, I'm on mobile

What a cuntweasel. Detach and ignore for now, get some rest and decide what you want to do.

Life with this worthless dipshit can only get worse. Withdraw, detach, talk to a solicitor when you're able and ignore his bullshit. He's talking utter bollocks, don't let it scare you.

Thattime - cuntweasel

OP you don't need that. If you were the same weight when you first started dating till now then what's his issue. I'm 5 months down the line and only just lost baby weight. And you had a CS. I don't even think your meant to he exercising yet are you?

Don't worry about the custody. A court would never agree to that and besides your baby is 10 weeks.. She needs you!

Stay strong, you don't need someone else bringing you down.

Congratulations on your baby! X

If you are serious about splitting up - and I'm not doubting you, but he sounds utterly juvenile. The trick is to stay calm, these things take a lot of time to sort out. Tell him to leave. Then see a lawyer, find out what is really likely to happen, and work on it from there.

Yes. He'll try to unbalance and distress you...likely make more stupid comments about your weight, more bullshit about custody and so on. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Just speak to your legal expert and get back to him when you have your ducks in a row. He'll try to provoke you - the only way to win is not to play.

OP, first of all congrats on the baby . Also, it's wonderful that you are living with your Mum and she is supportive.

On a (sadly) less positive note, even before you posted about the text-exchange, I was wondering if he simply wanted out? He is trying to make your weight the reason (even though it's the same as when you met), but my guess is that he is finding life with the newborn too much and is trying to make up a case for leaving?

OP, reading between the lines here. You don't really want to split with him do you? You sent the text in the hope that he would reply that he didn't find you disgusting at all along those lines. But in fact it escalated. He raised the stakes as pp said. Do you love him? Do you believe he loves you? It sounds as though you are both dreadful at communicating gently and diplomatically what you want.. him: for you to lose weight and ways he can help you achieve that and you: for him to reassure you during the process of losing weight that he still finds you attractive and loves you. You two will need to get food at coomunicating clearly in a loving non accusatory way REALLY FAST if you want to have a future as a baby in the mix is no walk in the park. So, do you think he's an actual twat or is this recoverable? Be honest and don't be swayed from how you personally feel. If you want support and love ask for it and tell him directly how to give it to you, if it hurts for him to talk about your weight or you yourself are happy and don't want to lose it TELL HIM. He's your man - communicate with him. If he's decided that's that which of course he hasn't he is just resposnjng in kind to your text then let him go and yes snap his hand off for half his wages this is waaay more than you'd be legally entitled to!!