This is long as don't want to miss anything (sorry).
Dsis (19) has a long history of MH problems, almost crippling anxiety and depression, blackouts, self harm, frequent trips to A&E. During this time she had her first serious bf who also suffered from depression etc. At the time he seemed very nice, looked after her when she self harmed, appeared supportive, my DC's adored him.
He broke up with her a few months ago by text calling her some horrific names (bearing in mind he previously said he wanted to marry her and was besotted with her). It would also seem that he could sometimes be very nasty to her and left bruises where he grabbed her wrists in anger.
She was devastated by the breakup but kept going and is now on new anti-d's and is doing really well, learning to drive, spending lots of time with friends etc. For the first time in a long time she seems happy.
Now I'm sure you've worked out where this is heading, she phoned me today saying they are meeting up next week and that they both still love each other. I don't think they've actually got back together so I may be jumping the gun but it seems a real possibility. Dm and I have both taken the stance of she is an adult so can make her own decisions but to be wary. In truth though I am very worried that the drama of their relationship could pull her back down when she is finally getting her life together. He has apparently had therapy but I still haven't forgiven the way he treated her.
Is there anything I can say or do to help her look at this a bit more clearly? Or do I need to just keep quiet and smile at him through gritted teeth?