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Suspected cheating or am I just being silly?

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SequinCoat · 11/12/2015 23:11

DP is a delivery driver he usually gets home 7.30 - 8.00 a few times over the past two weeks he has been coming home much later than that, he claims to have went and see his mum/other family member or a friend. I suspect cheating because he has been switching his phone off which he never does.

Is it what I think it is or am I being silly?

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SequinCoat · 12/12/2015 21:50

I'm not leaving I know that for sure.

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Joysmum · 12/12/2015 21:52

It's the usual advice from me to find out your tights so you have control, choices and less uncertainty.

Potatoface2 · 12/12/2015 22:11

tell him to go to his mums as he spends more time there than he does at home......then tell her the same thing....see what she says to that....if she says hes never here you know then hes up to something.

Freezingwinter · 12/12/2015 22:15

Ask him outright to unlock his phone as you suspect something? If he's nothing to hide surely he will let you see?

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 05:35

Freezingwinter he wouldn't unlock his phone even if he didn't have something to hide, we had a little argument last night he just went off to bed, he won't leave like I told you he has told me to leave, I'm on the sofa his in the bed.

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 05:36

Potatoface I know he is up to something

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PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 13/12/2015 05:51

You're on the sofa?!? I'm sorry, I RTFT, and I seem to have missed the part where he's pregnant.

Words fail me.

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 05:53

Preemp well he went to bed knowing I wouldn't get in with him.

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wannabestressfree · 13/12/2015 05:56

Who's house ia it? Rental or mortgage?

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 06:06

Mortgage

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 06:07

And it is his

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AnyFucker · 13/12/2015 07:53

if it is his sole name on the mortgage then I am afraid you will have to leave and claim child support from him. Or you could stay and carry on letting him treat you like a doormat.

Having babies with nobs like this is often how these things go. You are best to get out now...it will only get worse I am afraid.

CityMole · 13/12/2015 10:07

If unmarried and name not on the deeds, then you are unlikely to have automatic occupancy rights. Are you in England/Wales /ni or scotland? In scotland you can apply for occupancy through the sheriff court, but I'm not sure it's as permissive a system in the rest if the UK. You poor thing, I'm so sorry, he sounds like an entitled man baby.

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 10:50

AnyFucker he has woken up this morning like nothing has happened asking me if I want breakfast, he has gone back in the bedroom to lay down claiming that he back is hurting him.
Citymole I am in London, thinking about going to my mums and leaving my 9 year old with him because he isn't going to go.

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RJnomore1 · 13/12/2015 11:02

Is he your 9yos dad?

The more I read and the more I think, the surer I am your instincts are right. Well that he's up to something he shouldn't be anyway. I think going to your mums is a good idea.

ImperialBlether · 13/12/2015 11:07

When you say you're thinking of leaving your 9 year old with him, do you mean permanently?

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 11:27

Yes he is my 9 year olds dad and no I don't mean permantely he isn't going to want to look after him full time

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AnyFucker · 13/12/2015 13:20

why would you leave your son with him ?

go, and take your son with you

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SequinCoat · 13/12/2015 15:18

AnyFucker My son has ASD so can't take him away from where we live.

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SpringTown46 · 13/12/2015 22:22

The continuity of your care, being with him, will matter more to your son than staying where you live now. Go to your Mums, but don't leave your son behind. It won't make your OH suddenly become father of the year if you do.

wannabestressfree · 14/12/2015 05:37

Of course you can ...... To his grandparents. Asd doesn't suddenly mean he can't stay elsewhere. It's how you spin it..... And yes I have children with asd.

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