Living like an old married couple :(

[SandBetweenMyt0es]

My BF sits infront of the TV every single night watching football. We only ever communicate if I come and sit in the same room whilst the game is on, and we either have a half conversation over the TV or he shock PAUSES the game whilst I say something. Agh!!

We sleep in separate rooms. This started ages ago when our DS was a baby because he says he sleeps better on his own for work etc. We dont have sex anymore and very little intimacy.

He is not unpleasant to me, just disinterested. I have tried to talk to him about all this. He made me feel like some sex crazed nutter when I mentioned the intimacy, and then every time I try and broach the other things he either makes out I'm being a drama queen or says its not the right time to talk. It never seems to be the right time. He says he still finds me attractive but I see zero evidence of this.

I know we are both busy, but I'm still in my twenties!! What can I do to improve things?

I think he sent you the upbeat texts to cheer you up so that he doesn't get any hassle when he gets in and switches on the TV, also because he sensed there was a bit of stress in the air and it discombobulated him a little.

Oh my god chinesealan do you think so?? That is so crappy if you're right. No, I definitely do NOT want a mediocre life OR relationship!!! How depressing!!

It goes to show how bad things are when you're grateful for a friendly text message

Personally I really don't believe in soul mates (and I'm very happily married) but if they did exist, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be someone who isn't interested in talking to me let alone being affectionate or intimate.

You bond over your DS. He's a great dad and you both love him. You could be wonderful co-parents whilst in fulfilling relationships with other people.

I get where the 'old married couple' bit comes from…. you're in your twenties and thinking after 50+ of marriage the conversation and sex might have dried up a bit… but it's happened to you after just 7 years together.

Your relationship is not fulfilling you and if it doesn't change for the better and soon, then you would be wise to end it. A lot of us find out in our twenties that life isn't going to play out as we thought - it might feel 'heartbreaking' and scary, not least as you have a child together, but it's not unusual and can be a very positive and liberating thing to get your head round.