That cliche of married woman meeting man at work.....

[midlife2015]

Long story short. Had trouble with marriage husband was slightly depressed but still great dad- I have been on this site before worrying I didn't fancy him. My husband sorted himself out now has his sparkle. Whilst this is going on with hubby, I fancy guy at work - didn't know if he did. All was ok re building marriage then boom.... Night out with man he asks if I am unhappy with hubby and if I am leaving him. I am an experienced person with people this guy is decent. He is in a relationship no kids I have kids. I couldn't answer him as we are up and down. I try to kiss him he refrains cos said it would be more complicated. He asked twice if I was going to leave my hubby. There is a connection and I cannot concentrate it s ridiculous . Saw him today he asked if I was ok . I know this is a cliche (i am 37) I have so much to lose but can't get him out of my head. Help! I know some people will judge me but I also know other women go through this. Yes I am probably bored of marriage (awful to say) I also haven't had the feeling of fancying someone (with hubby it just grew steadily) such turmoil

Don't want to hijak the post, but I am going through a similar situation currently.
I have marital problems: DH and I no longer find each other attractive, just emotionally detached I suppose.
I went on a conference with a colleague involving an overnight stay. We went out to dinner in the evening and he gave me his undivided attention, told me I was great company , attractive and lovely. When you feel alone, it's very flattering and exciting to feel desired.
I don't find this man physically attractive and would never kiss or sleep with him but I have developed a strange infatuation with him. I want to be with him because he makes me feel good.
O am going to take all of atomik's advice immediately to stop this infatuation getting out of control.

Thank you for the wakeup call. I need to sort my marriage out first and foremost and see if we can fall in love again without these distractions.

midlife & bythewind

Wishing you both the smoothest detingle / detangle possible

I know it doesn't look easy, and the first few steps can feel hard, becuase it's such a 180 from the "feed the crush seedling" stage. But if you concentrate on one foot in front of the other rather than focusing on the distant peak of the end game... it's far far far more doable than it seems at first glance.

each.

Thanks Atomik. It's good to realise that it's just a crush: no different to when I was obsessed with matt goss aged 14 (shows age...). I certainly recovered from that....