Christmas Things I don't miss .....

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In the same vein as " things I don't miss about my ex" but with a festive feel!
I was putting up my secs today and have these cute Nordic wooden decorations I habg on my kitchen door handles and as I hung them today remembered how much my Twunt ExH used to moan about them so much until I took them down! Now I can leave them up all year!
Also how Xmas secs were only allowed to be put up the Sunday before and taken down on 1st Jan ! Now I put them up on 1st of December - BECAUSE I CAN !!!

luckily I didn't live with my last ex but I still want to moan haha....

firstly he would never come and see me at Christmas, but moaned if I said I was visiting people, (I know it's not all about the presents) but my God was the stuff I got from him rubbish except for one thing and he bragged about it like it was the best thing ever, when we worked together on boxing day and I didn't kiss him under the mistletoe at work he'd abuse me (I was his manager and I respected my job and didn't want to bring personal stuff to work)

now my amazing fiancé shifted our living room around just so I can have the nicest tree just to keep me happy

Spending time with his joyless family!

More stuff I dont miss: the endless kerfuffle with his divorced parents, who both live abroad. Massive organisation, one would decide to rent out their house, so loving about every few days with kids and baby and tat, just for ex to drink himself blind every night regardless and start fights with every single member of his family. The end of that holiday was NOT joyfully festive either.
Or the hols to my family, whom he did not like, where he either lorded it in their kitchens, or sat in the bedroom drinking whisky and watching Fucking James Bond. I have a real hatred for Bond-films now. But ha! I dont have to watch thecrap anymore! Ever!
Sadly he thinks we should be friends now, after everything I put him through. And this xmas he wants us to celebrate together. The kids were keen but I declined politely. I'd rrather sit alone eating cold Brussels sprouts.

Moving about, not loving about...

Yes tearsoffrustration Also spending time with his joyless family i know exactly how you feel.

I do actually miss my ex at Xmas sometimes. Especially our last Xmas, we had all his kids and his 2 grandkids with us and it was just a big happy house. Now it's just me and DS, it does feel a bit lonely.

However, I have a new job this year and I will DEFINITELY not miss being on call on xmas day, boxing day and new years day, working approx 5am to 11pm! Bring on the 4 days off

Being groped by father in law and sitting in a boiling hot sitting room with in laws smoking continually.

I will not miss having to drive a 4 hour round trip to see his parents on Christmas eve - who hate Christmas and never even offered up a brew! Dropping gifts at all of his relatives houses with at least a months notice (even when we did it every year) and being told "Sorry we didn't know you were coming so we haven't wrapped/bought gifts for DS" - it annoyed me even more when I spent all of my own money on thoughtful gifts for them and he used to nark if I spent a penny more on my own family.

Him outright refusing to pay for Christmas dinner out or go to my parents or help to cook/pay for a home cooked Christmas dinner - we would spend weeks arguing over it for him to concede Christmas morning when my parents had accommodated DS and me but not him.

Spending lots of time finding thoughtful gifts for him that didn't cost too much when he would say "Sorry couldn't afford anything" and yet managed to send OW a Christmas gift every year.

Being able to put all of our lovely decorations up on my cheapy tree without him whinging about wanting a real one but yep you guessed it - wouldn't put his wallet where his mouth was!

Oh and being able to go and buy whichever Christmas goodies I fancy/can afford without worrying he would take them for lunch.

And being able to watch Scrooged like a bajillion times because - well just because!

Thank god he's gone - second Christmas without him and last years was fantastic - this year I have a new DP and cannot wait!

IIIIITTTTTSSSSSSS nearly CHRRRRRRRRIIIIIIIIIIIIISTMAAAAAAAS

I hope my ex chokes on his Christmas dinner this year.

Kidding... Kind of

I can't wait to not feel dread every time my ex decided the stress of everyday life was too much for him and he needed to go and relax in the pub, until the next day usually. Oh and it would always include a one night stand which I would later find out about, but it wasn't a big deal because he was too drunk to know what he was doing. I Won't miss being 100% responsible for Christmas and everything that it involves. Every Christmas Eve for 9 years included a sulk and an evening of tense angst ridden behaviour because it was so stressful wrapping all the presents I had bought and "could I not wrap them all too?"
Atm I am still in the same house as this prize bastard and have to share Christmas Day with him and our daughter but this time next year I will be free and I can dream until then of being rid of such a control freaking, miserable, joyless, angry, unfaithful, abusive, lying, pathetic excuse of a human being .......
Agh that feels so good - thank you for this thread

My first Xmas eve with my new DH was wonderful.

He helped me wrap the last of the presents . Sort out the crockery and Xmas plates, table ., chairs .Prepare the veg. Then we disappeared up,to his house till the next day ( he had dogs!) before coming back and cooking dinner at mine for all the family.

I couldn't believe how stress less it was. Not waiting for someone to deign to come home from the pub and then start.

Everything was bad tempered, stress and I'd still be wrapping presents at 1 am

I kept thinking I'd forgotten all sorts. No, I hadn't. Just everything was done calmly, peacefully, thoughtfully, working as a team . How it should be.

My DH is the gift to myself that keeps on giving. I knew within several months of being with him that this relationship was for keeps and that peaceful Christmas just cemented it all the more.

Aw Mulberry.

Hope your freedom happens really soon in the new year. Least you don't have to take any bullshit off him this year.

Yayyyy!

Spending my week off with ExH and his family. A four-hour drive to get there, no food for us or for 7, 5 and 2 yo DDs, and me having to get the whole families presents on Xmas eve because H and FIL had done fuck all.

Cooking the Xmas dinner for my family, FIL and both SILs families by myself and buying/wrapping presents for all whilst my fucking useless ex sat on the sofa watching the Horror Channel with his dad the whole entire day.

Kids were not allowed to turn the to over but had to occupy themselves.

No presents for anyone including the children from FIL, although he attempted to give me £20 to buy them something with on Boxing Day.

Never, ever telling me how long we would be staying at his parents for. He would say 'why do you need to know, got somewhere better to be?' I would find out it's time to go home when he woke up and announced we were going back that day. It could be two days, it could be 6. Totally dependant on his whims and wishes. Selfish arsehole. Never, ever had a Xmas with my family in 9 years of marriage.

This year it's Xmas at my brothers house, secret Santas and presents organised already, panto trip and restaurant booked, New Years party with my cousins and children all planned.

It hasn't yet sunk in that I never, ever have to have a shitty Xmas with him again.

Excellent thread

Dowser, I'm going to make 2016 my year of freedom! your new DP sounds wonderful (and your old life sounds like mine!)

First Christmas separated and i can honestly say i will not miss my ex at all!
1.Exclaiming to all my family how he cant wait to go back to work

2.His miserable face.

3.Him not wanting to join in any family celebrations

4.Him visiting a strip club on his christmas night out then lying to me and leaving the £80 receipt on the side with strip club name on whilst claiming to be too skint to buy me a decent present.

5.Him texting me from across the room at family gathering as he wanted us to (leave the children behind) go to a party of an acquaintance (not a friend) then getting up and putting his coat on and telling me he was going whilst we were mid game! i went for 5 minutes then came back as i wanted to spend boxing day with my family. i didnt hear from him until the next morning.

new boyfriend this year and i cant wait