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Moving and visitors

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WinkyWinkola · 12/12/2006 10:36

We're moving house next month.

My in laws want to visit for the afternoon we've just moved in as they'll be in town for a wedding. I don't want any visitors because I know that the whole occasion will be stressful enough as it is.

Is this out of order? I would NEVER visit someone, anyone, if they'd just moved unless invited.

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foxtrottothefestivegrotto · 12/12/2006 10:39

do they want to visit on the actual moving day?

wartywarthog · 12/12/2006 10:42

i wouldn't, but i'd let her come but not make any special effort for her. so what if there are boxes everywhere and nothing's in the right place? you've got enough on your plate as it is. i'd warn her in advance though so that she can't be too judgemental!

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WinkyWinkola · 12/12/2006 10:58

The morning after.

I'm amazed anyone would think it's ok on one of the most stressful occasions of one's life.

Now I'm the one being demonised by DH as unreasonable and unaccommodating. They're coming to London for a wedding. It's not like they'll be any help either - he's got heart condition and she's puny.

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anniemac · 12/12/2006 11:28

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WinkyWinkola · 12/12/2006 11:31

But we need to get things done. We only have the weekend to get things up and running.

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NotQuiteCockney · 12/12/2006 11:33

Could they maybe keep the kids entertained?

I sympathise about the stress, but maybe they want to be helpful, or are looking forward to seeing the new house?

Blu · 12/12/2006 11:33

Once you're in the worst part is over. There will be a place for them to sit - the sofa will have been put in your front room, they will be able to have a cup of tea - you will have put together an 'emergency / immediate use' box of essentials to take with you in the car!

Enjoy showing off your new house, and they won't stay long.

Now if they wanted to visit the afternoon before you move, or on moving day itself, that would be different!

LIZS · 12/12/2006 11:34

I'd get the kettle ready , clear a chair or two and just get on with whatever you need to do, enlisting help if needs be or let them entertain the kids while you get on with sorting.

Blu · 12/12/2006 11:36

Yes, putting them in a room with the children is a good idea! Children are a complete nuisance in any efficient moving-house operation - I am moving on Thursday!

anniemac · 12/12/2006 11:37

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WinkyWinkola · 12/12/2006 11:48

I've sorted out childcare. I just don't want visitors at all that weekend. Not because the house isn't perfect - I'm not that kind of person - I just want to be left alone to get on with the job and not even have to think about other people hanging around.

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Blu · 12/12/2006 11:51

But sometimes things happen otherwise.

If it's hard for them to travel, it's natural that they want to come while they are in town, and it's natural that they want to see your new house.

But it's your house, your ILs, your DH - yer pays yer money and makes yer priorities according to what matters! Good luck with the move.

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