Should he know its his baby

[Babealicious38]

I have a male friend who was in a relationship with someone. She cheated on him and he broke the relationship up. She came back and said she is pregnant however the figures didn't add up for it to be my friends child. However the other guy doesn't know this and she is now going to terminate the other guys baby 13 weeks into pregnancy. He believes she is terminating my friends child and is planning a life with her. Does he have a right to know the truth?

Sounds like the desire for revenge is the motivating factor.

this has nothing to do with her decision. Everyone agrees that she will can do what she likes. The issue here is the lie that has been told and that the boyfriend has no idea that the baby is actually his and that friend is being used as scapegoat

Atenco this has absolutely nothing to do revenge. If it was, he would have told her bf when he found out.

Tuilamum this guy WOULD be supportive of the baby and her. That is the motivating factor in saying the baby belongs to my friend to enable the termination

But Babealicious38 you can't be 100% sure that this baby is either man's. Perhaps there is a third man and it is therefore much easier for her to say that your friend is the biological father, hence the termination. Yes, I do think that the father should know but the only person who can make this decision is the woman in question.

Ask yourself why she might want to terminate a pregnancy with her new partner. We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors or in people's heads. She may simply not want a baby. As is her choice.

What do you think should happen?

Nobody knows whose this baby is, it doesn't matter the woman who is pregnant doesn't want to continue the pregnancy as is her choice.

Finola1step I think he should talk to her. Tell her that he is unhappy that he doesn't support her decision to lie to her bf. I think he also needs to tell her that he will not lie for her if he is asked about the paternity of the baby.
I agree that it is her decision and right to terminate.
My friend is very upset hat he is being used as the lie

So he can have that conversation with her.

The baby could be anyone's frankly, if she wants to terminate that's up to her.

The fact that she's a liar and a cheat is a separate issue. She's not a good choice for any man until she grows up.

Nope, he doesn't have the right. That said, certainly your friend has no obligation to lie if he were asked. Also, are you quite certain she is actually lying? You say the figures don't add up, but people often get that wrong. Either way, best advice you've had is that everyone is best keeping well out.

So she says the baby is her ex's? He doesn't think it is because of dates and wants to tell her new man that she's aborting his baby?
I don't understand how he can be so sure the baby is the new man's and not his? Are you sure your friend isn't one of those people who doesn't understand how pregnancies are dated. He'll look a right bell-end if he tries to warn the new man and it then turns out that he is actually the father after all and new man hasn't had any unprotected sex with this woman.

I just can't imagine why you would want your friend to involve himself in any way OP, since he doesn't have to and he's not going to benefit from it. If that were my friend, I'd want him to steer well clear. There's plenty of trouble in life already without going looking for it, and he's clearly well rid.

I really really seriously doubt that your friend wants to tell the OM about this about of the goodness of his heart. This OM fucked his girlfriend.

Your friend knows that:

• she doesn't want the baby
• OM would
• he doesn't like his ex

So... it has trouble making and revenge written all over it.

Bullshit he doesn't want to be used in a lie - he wants to cause trouble because she cheated on him.

KEEP YOUR NOSE OUT!
As should he.
No matter what this woman has done, no woman should be pressured to keep an unwanted pregnancy.

And all those saying he has a "right to know" actually no, legally he doesn't.

No-one has the right to know anything.
She has the right to do what she wants about her pregnancy.
If a child is born, the child has the right to know their father.
If the pregnancy is terminated, that is the end of the matter.

Everyone else needs to keep out.

Finola1step I think he should talk to her. Tell her that he is unhappy that he doesn't support her decision to lie to her bf. I think he also needs to tell her that he will not lie for her if he is asked about the paternity of the baby

From the above it seems it's not so much what he thinks as what you think and it appears you've come here to solicit support for your opinion. Are you by any chance a drama llama in your spare time?

If so. here's some old breaking news: a gentleman NEVER tells. Do you have it in you to be an equally discreet lady. or are you out to foster discord because you have some vested interest in the sperm donor male who claims to have begotten offspring that is not destined to be born?

On balance you're best advised to do yourself a favour and butt out, honey, as the last thing this tangled web needs is black widow spider at its centre.