Just having a laugh or odd behaviour

[ShaunP]

Looking for female points of view, hope you dont mind.

been with my partner for 3 years, we have a son who is 2. my partner has always had a daft sense of humour and she always used to make me laugh but im starting to wonder if maybe something is wrong.

my sister for instance has just had a baby and partner would usually do the ringing around etc but this time she asked me to phone and ask if the baby was a "bloke or a woman" and she said if I did it she would let me use her credit card to get the jacket I wanted at the weekend (was £110), I know my family can take a joke so I went along with it and she was on the couch practically doubled up with laughter, so much so that she gave herself stomach ache it was funny but not that funny.

my mum sent some smarties for our son but we dont allow him to eat them to i gave them to partner, she took them and just sat staring at me, i left her to it and walked out of the room and then heard them being slung across the room, she then started shouting of me as if something drastic had happened and when I went in the smarties were all over the floor and she just sat there and said "I threw them" ??? she didnt even laugh, she only laughed about 15 minutes later when she saw me picking them up.

I know she has had a bit of a rough time through the years and all her family are jokers but hers dont seem funny to anyone else but her. im worried that she maybe suffering from some mental illness.

thanks for any help

Seems odd behaviour to me really, sorry.

That is odd behaviour. Does anything else concern you about her behaviour?

You say she's always had a daft sense of humour, but has it always been like this or is this something new? It certainly seems odd to me but it's hard to tell whether it could be some kind of mental problem or if she's just winding you up.

That behaviour does sound odd to me. Not v funny or responsible either, if Im honest. Does she drink or use drugs?

What does your family think, or is that question too loaded?

Jalopy - Her behaviour in general is quite eratic, she doesnt like me having friends (but denies this) and if I go out shes clock watching all the time, not saying that im untrustworthy but saying that shes bored and hates been on her own. She found out a few months ago that she had made up loads of internet persona's to talk to people with hardly ever using her own personaity or name, i thought that was wierd. she's just 'odd' in general, its hard to explain.

WigWam - it's not new, just variations of old stuff if you see what I mean? like the prank phone calls, shes always done that but the less funny they seem to me (like the baby call) the more hilarious she finds it. She recently developed an obsession with our neighbours and would listen in on their arguments laughing like mad at the wall and would then make me mock them to make her laugh.

whatwouldjesusdo - My family think she's a bit wierd but to be honest they dont know the half of it, they all get on ok but she makes it obvious that she doesnt like spending time with them and they have picked up on it, her family just think she's mad but in a funny way but again they dont know the half of it.

She does drink sometimes but when shes drunk she tends to act more normal!

Maybe its a front she puts on to try and impress you, but is going drastically wrong?
Is she stressed or feelng insecure, this might be exacerbating her behaviour, ie trying to get more attention from you?
I'm thinking this because you say she is more 'normal' when she has a drink and more relaxed.

What you describe, is the sort of behaviour that I wouldnt expect to persist beyond the age of 16. If she was my sister, I'd tell her to grow up. It is hard to get a message like that through though, unless the person hits a crisis of some sort.

Could she get started on a college course, or in a job? Does she have a mum or sister who you could ask for help?

ShaunP, it's quite possible that she might have some form of mental illness. Are her moods very labile? Is she quite paranoid or is she extremely impulsive at times? Just trying to second guess for you.