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To report father to Police for historical abuse?

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libertysilk · 27/11/2015 10:22

Incredibly difficult post to write, but, I genuinely need some advice please. I've been having counselling regarding my abusive childhood. Come from a large family, and as a child my father would bite us to see how hard he could bit before we cried, hold our heads under water in the bath, hold us in headlocks, shout in our ears, control every single aspect of our life, cut our hair very short if he deemed we weren't looking after it properly. He also sexually abused my sister. I remember being lectured for hours to the point of having a fit and the doctor coming to give me an injection.
If I reported my father to the police, I'd risk losing my brothers and sisters, maybe they'd try and harm me? They are very loyal to my father. He buys them, and 'he's changed'. Several of my brothers and sisters have addiction problems with drugs and alcohol.
I really don't know what to do? What would the police do when I report? What would happen to my father? What is the success rate?
Please can you advise me?

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libertysilk · 28/11/2015 20:09

Yes, I am more afraid of my brothers reaction to be honest. They are so easily manipulated by my father, and I know he would act in a way to provoke them. Will look into getting my file from social services. Its a long time since I read it, and I think I was in shock that one actually existed! Why didn't they do anything? How could they have left us all to be abused and tortured?
I'm also definitely going to change my counsellor. I will never be able to have empathy for my father. He is a monster, and I pity him hugely

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