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Was I in the wrong?

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lonelydove · 11/12/2006 14:48

Last night I went out with some friends and didnt get in until 2am, this was sorted out with DP first so everything was fine there. When I got in he was laid on the bed writing with the light on, I said hello etc and he started asking where I'd been, everytime i named a place he said he knew full well it wasnt open on Sunday nights etc as if I was lying, in the end I just said whatever and told him I wanted to go to bed so could he either stop writing or write in the living room so I could turn the lights off, he said "no, I'm busy" so I got annoyed and turned off the light, he went crazy and thew the lamp across the room and his pen etc and then flew for me shouting in my face etc, I went into the living room to get away from him and he kept following me shouting in my face, he then said he was keeping the light on all night and I would have to sleep on the couch , so I did. He later aplogised for scaring me but I can't work out whether he was in the wrong for being so OTT about it or was I for turning off the light whilst he was writing. I'm so sick of walking on egg shells with him

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hoolagirl · 11/12/2006 14:51

Sounds like he was waiting for a fight.
You are not in the wrong, I would be very very pissed off if I was you.

pooka · 11/12/2006 14:51

His reaction was disproportionate.
It sounds like he was wanting an argument, and if you wouldn't rise to the "where have you been" one, he had the right to light argument all set up just in case.
Would have been furious. Is he usually like this about you going out?

ThrockenAroundTheChristmasTree · 11/12/2006 14:53

sounds like he had convinced himself you weren't telling him the truth and had been sitting there waiting to pick a fight with you.

I would ask him outright if he did not believe you when you told him where you were/had gone - and why.

multitasker · 11/12/2006 14:53

I think if you were being honest with him about where you were and had earlier given him an idea of when you would be home, then he is totally in the wrong, his behaviour is abusive and frightening. You need to think long term here - is this the scenario you want to have to deal with every time you go out??

PinkTinsel · 11/12/2006 15:01

awwww {{{{hugs}}}} LD, he sounds like a tempermental twat tbh and he was definitely in the wrong.

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