Stages of feelings after an affair,

[janaus]

Sorry, it's me again. I don't really need replies, unless you also want to talk about feelings you went through.

The doctor told me to write things down, how I'm feeling. So, this is Therapy for me. I am also writing a journal. I will probably print out my posts, when I organise Counselling.

Early August till now ..

1. Hurt, Anger, Betrayal

1. Sadness, Disbelief

1. Grief - sense of loss

1. Numbness. - shut myself off from everything, shut down feelings

1. Shame, Embarrassment

1. "Pick me", ". Honeymoon stage" "Romancey stage", read that sex, sex sex, stage (Even surprised myself with this one)

1. Blame - Other woman, DH, ME

1. Revenge

1. Couldn't care less stage. Put up with me the way I am, if we can work it out together, we will. If not, time to Get Out, both have a chance to find happiness.

10. More anger, hate

Basically, I just want to feel normal again, whatever that is.

Hubby came back from his weekend away. Expecting it to be still the "Romancey" stage. Wrong!!!!

Time alone to think. Time to read.

Jesus, this gets worse, his friendliness caused the OW to chase him - doubt it very much lol.

He's groping other women in your company - do you not have any limits OP, I mean seriously, is he allowed just to do anything humiliating towards you and you will just put it down to him liking women - you were and are his woman, clearly that's not enough for him.

He's going to do this again to you, sorry but all the signs are there, he sounds a letch.

Jan you will get more constructive and helpful advice if you start a thread and stick to it, rather than starting multiple threads hoping the advice will be different because you don't like what you've been told.

I sympathise with you, really I do, but you seem almost as keen as he is to minimise this all. I can understand why, I'm sure you want to skip the pain and get to the good bit, where everyone is happy and trust is regained. But you will only get to that stage if you and your DH go through the process of dealing with this properly (and maybe not even then). Your DH has to allow you to process this however you need to.

ty, worzels.

The reasons for many posts, I guess is, I did not want to re hash the whole story over and over.
The last few times. I did not ask for advice or opinions. Though I am happy to read them. I thank everyone for their care and concern in taking the time to follow me on this journey.
My feelings are so up and down. I just came off the Ad's and anxiety medication. I want to cry if I want, I want to feel happy, I want to rage if I need to. The feeling of numbness wasn't getting me anywhere.
I don't like all the advice at times, but it is good to read, giving me another perspective. My aim is for both of us to learn from this. Probably things have not been good for years. For him to realise that his selfishness and womanising ways are not appropriate behaviour. I cannot get ino counselling until after Xmas. Thanks again. I may be back after then,