At the end of tether with DH

[Bjornstar]

Hi all

We have been working on our relationship for some time now and it is beginning to slip again. Dh was away (work related) on Thursday and Friday night. Then we met him in town for shopping and cinema. All good.

The minute we get home on the Saturday he is tidying up and banging around and criticising me for something small.

On the Sunday, he is complaining about the cat and being in a bad mood. I offered to make him some brekkie and he said no thanks in a cool tone. He then criticised me for the way I opened a drawer at the edge-said it should be in the middle. Horrible atmosphere in the house - DS is pretending he has hot hands to 'hurt daddy' with (being protective of me) which totally should not be happening. Ds had a party to go to which I invited dh to join which he agreed to. He went to go in shower and I shouted up the stairs to let him know the time we had to be there. He shouted back down, 'I'm not fitting in with your social life!!!' It isn't my social life, I said - it is ds party!! DH decided not come with us in the end. I asked him I should take his car or if I should move it and he said he didn't care.

When I returned home I spent the rest of the day feeling hated. Going to have a chat with dh tonight to tell him we just can't live together - it isn't working. On the example I have provided today, is this a fair reason to call it a day.

I would definitely want to get out or else the misery would continue x100

See a solicitor before making a decision about moving, but in your shoes I'd go. The potential financial hit would be an easy trade off for the 6-18 months of mental torture enacted (on you and DS) by a petulant man-child while you force a house sale. Been there.

Just a thought. Could he be cheating and that's why he forces arguments and doesn't attend family events? Sounds to me like he could be. He is projecting something on to you. Anyway that's what I put up with for years until I found out the reason why.
He sounds vile.

Enoughalreadyyou - sadly that was also my first thought and that's down to my own experience.

OP - honestly you will be so much happier as will your DS away from this man. This is not how normal relationships should be with you walking on egg shells and your 'D'H being an arse. Think of the damage to your DS if you stay - I shudder to think. Time to see him for what he is - a selfish, entitled man-child who can't even bring himself to respect you . Good luck with your decision

Moving out is fine but make damn sure you force the sale of the family home or he buys you out. Don't let him rob money as well as years from you.