Been with my DP for almost two years and he told me from a very early stage be had just broken up with is ex of 5 years. This was their second relationship of the same length and they have both had another long term relationship in between but ended up together again
She has now remarried, but they remain 'best friends'. She lives locally to him, works locally and they communicate frequently but he has always reassured me that they are just good friends which I accept - but they do have a special 'connection' that is clear to everyone we know - they just didn't work out romantically and wanted different things
There have been a few occasion where I have felt like the second choice, not that he intentionally makes me feel this way. Today though, something really silly has upset me. When we first em, he went away with work and when he came back, he wanted to see me and said he had a present for me. He said he bought me some perfume because he really liked it and the next time we went out together, he wants me to wear it. When I did, he said it drive him crazy etc. Well today, we went to the pub and his ex was there and she had left her toiletry bag in the toilet. I didn't know it was hers or what was inside but in order to try and identify this, I looked inside and there was a small sampler type bottle of perfume - the same one (not a common one). I told her what I had found and she confirmed it was hers. Now I feel shit and that he only bought it for her to remind him of her. Or that she still wears it because she knows he likes it
Am I being stupid?