Does a mid-life crisis exsist?

[veryfedup123]

My H literally turned into a teenager, young clothes interests, found a soul mate. All blew up in his face and wants to come back. Says it all stems from fear of ageing. We're mid to late forties. Its all such a cliche. Is it even a real thing?? I've certainly no desire to be a teenager again. Once was

Of course he is "remorseful", he fucked his own life up and the grass wasn't greener

If it had been though, you wouldn't have been back in the frame

Come on love, you are really not going to accept being some dickhead's second choice are you ?

No I will not accept being second choice. We are separated and I'm doing OK. Its very hard though. You hear of so many middle aged men doing similar, after many happy years of marriage. I'm not making any excuse for his selfish behaviour.

No I will not accept being second choice. We are separated and I'm doing OK. Its very hard though. You hear of so many middle aged men doing similar, after many happy years of marriage. I'm not making any excuse for his selfish behaviour.

What bjrce and Anyfucker said. He is not worth the angst. He did not have any when he mess things up (yours and the kids life) for a bit of skirt.

And now he wants to come home. Of course he does. Don't be the consolation prize.

I absolutely believe that people go through periods of dissatisfaction with their lives, and though it can be triggered by age it's not only that.

When I was 28 I was bored in my job and frustrated. I took an evening class for a TESOL qualification. The act of doing it (preparation for travelling) lifted my frustration a bit, and I got a move at work that kept me engaged - I never quit, no regrets on that.

I was 28 so no-one would call it a midlife crisis.

It is perfectly normal to feel bored / frustrated / in a rut.
It's NOT normal (common, but not the norm) to go and shag someone.
That's not a midlife crisis, that's being an arsehole.

I couldn't stomach touching a man who only came back because:

• his OW didn't want him
• he was too lazy/scared to date again
• he missed his easy life
• he didn't like the new finances

"I couldn't stomach touching a man who only came back because: - his OW didn't want him."

I would think most people (men and women) would take great glee in telling their partner to get lost if they had run off with someone else and then come crawling back when it all went wrong.

Make sure that never happens then, Waving, because it does seem depressingly common for these men to be able to slot right back into their old life...ably assisted by the woman in their life that has always cleared up his messes for him.

The ones who make huge changes, do they ALL regret it? My friend's now ex husband did v similar to Wavingnotdrowning's stbxh and I do wonder will he wake up and think "what have I done?" But maybe he won't. What's the usual outcome of the midlife crisis?

"...goes clubbing, etc etc. I think he's mad and looks ridiculous. "

Unless he's Bill Murray, he will definitely look ridiculous making sandwiches on the dancefloor.