Why is DH such a miserable bugger - he makes everyone in the house upset

[mummydear]

My Dh works hard and is a stressful job, why on his days off is he so miserable , he has a go at me about the state of the house - which it is not untidy but I am constantly clearing up that days mess and his which he is happy to leave around during the week!

Yersterday he was in the bathroom lecturing me about the limescale ! Its not limescale its the water marks on the shower tap, clean it one day next day its back !

Everytime he has a day off I am reduced to tears which inturn had an effect on the children.

Its happening evryday off now , yesteday he had a day off, I was at school all day helping to sort out a Xmas party , I asked him to do a couple of things - like putting all the Xmas presents to the shed , which I have bought and wrapped mainly for his family and he did sod all yesterday. I asked him to do 3 things of which he did none ! I was out of the house all day.

I just cannot talk to him , we dont talk and Im in tears everyday he is home . Why is he like this ?

He will not go to relate , Ive been once on my won but didnt see the point in carrying on if he wasnt going to go. Its making life hell at home .
What is wrong with him , what can I do ?

I am so pissed off and upset about him I cant even be bothered to name change

Thanks aliceband. Sometimes I feel that I've been around and seen a fair few problems with one friend or another. I don't know if it makes me any the wiser or not!

I went to a lovely wedding recently and the congregation was asked to be a support to the couple during the marriage, to be there should they need someone to talk to or to help. I hadn't heard that before.

One friend gave me a tip recently without meaning to. It was this:- when kids are older i.e. teenagers and being difficult, put on any videos you have with you playing with them, cuddling them etc and they'll be reassured that you do love them, even though at this moment in time it doesn't seem like it. It's much the same doing it with wedding videos or photos with your dp/dh. Remembering times when things were more loving and the reasons why you are together.

Must stop waffling!

Thanks Ivor for the advice. DH work , although stresful he does enjoy it . If anything should happen to him and he acnnot work then he will get full pay for six months and we have an insurance policy to keep the pay full after that.

the problem with him he thinks he is invincible and nothing will happen to him .

I see what you say about him thinking that noboby could love him - we are at each other so often.

Perhaps I will make an appointment for him but he is so defensive about it . I've been telling him for ages that he needs to look after himself , the GP basically told him the same and he never listened to her either.

Okay. Good to hear that you've got provision incase you should need it.

Would a different GP help? I know that some people prefer a man to a woman or prefer a non chatty one to a chatty one. Does he have a preference?