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Boyfriend sends nude pic of himsel to a grandom girl- Advice needed!

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JoannaB92 · 16/11/2015 14:16

So this if the first post I've done on this website so please bear with me if this sounds a little novice.

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now. It' s safe to say we are in love and I love him more and more every day. We live about 45 minutes drive away from each other but he always takes his time to drive to me (as don't drive) and takes me on romantic dates and is so very loving and caring towards me and my son of 3.

Last Friday I was sat at work and I had a strange message on Facebook from a girl who I don't even know with a screen shot of a conversation between her and my boyfriend basically arranging to meet up for coffee. He then sent her a fully naked picture of himself which shows in the screen shot. She then went on to say 'Sort your boyfriend out' which infuriated me as I don't even know the girl!

I went to message her back to get more information but she must of blocked me. My boyfriend then picked me up from work I was raging but waited till I put my son to bed because I didn't want him to see me angry. I confronted him about it and he said it was just a girl he knew before me and thought it would be okay to meet her for coffee as it would be innocent. He then went on to say that the picture was meant to be sent for me and not her and showed me the messages he sent to her telling her it was an accident and to delete the picture and all she said back was 'What would your girlfriend say if she knew?'

I find it very hard to believe that he could accidently send someone a picture as this was done on whatsapp and we never use it to contact each other. On the other hand I do love him and really don't want to leave him but I feel like I cant trust him and there has been incidents where I've seen him messaging random girls to meet up but he always says they are 'friends'

Im so confused would love to know what other people would do in this situation

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Anastasie · 17/11/2015 11:33

Nice work, OP - I am so pleased to hear this. You took control and didn't let him decide for you, and you didn't believe his bullshit.

It is a lovely feeling when you decide to focus on your child and not give a stuff about having a man around who caused you nothing but trouble.

Flowers
ILiveAtTheBeach · 17/11/2015 12:21

In my experience, the guys that send cock pics, are generally not "keepers". If a man is really serious about you, he would treat you with a bit more respect than that.

heavens2betsy · 17/11/2015 12:26

What is he 15???
Regardless of who the pic was for I would dump him just for having a naked picture of himself on his phone and for ever sending it anywhere.
What is it with men who think all women want to see them in the buff? Its not a pretty sight!
Well done OP - you did the right thing!

JoannaB92 · 18/11/2015 11:33

Thank you for all your comments, have completely deleted him from my life. I got the begging, crying etc. and I completely ignored him. Will be sending his clothes to him in the post as I don't want him anywhere near my house.

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hellsbellsmelons · 18/11/2015 12:19

Well done OP.
You've taken full control and acted quickly.
It's the best way and takes some guts too.
Look after yourself though!

Anastasie · 18/11/2015 15:42

You are fantastic Smile

Serious kudos to you, how amazing is that! Respect Smile

KeepOnMoving1 · 18/11/2015 15:59

Well done for making the choice that you and your ds deserve so much better Flowers
It's a shame that he turned out to be this way, but at least you have more experience in what's acceptable from any man. Men like that only get worse, you absolutely did the right thing.

RedMapleLeaf · 18/11/2015 16:33

Well done OP. Good for you.

troubleatmillcock · 18/11/2015 18:31

'I feel like I can't trust him'.

That's because you can't trust him!

Run OP. He's a loser.

RedMapleLeaf · 18/11/2015 18:59
Hmm
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