A bit of background - I threw him out a year ago due to me facing up to his abusive nature and threatening police if he didn't leave. He did. We have a toddler together, and jointly own the house which I now live in on my own.
Things have been kind of 'ok' I guess between us in terms of getting along day to day for the sake of ds. He comes round a lot because there is not much I can do about it as he owns half the house.
I still suffer from his emotional/verbal abuse a lot of the time (guess I am used to it), although it had got much better of late.
But this evening he said something which shocked me, and that is that when he was about 15/16, if his mother say, called him and his brother down for dinner, they would mumble to each other out of her earshot 'just coming you stupid whore'.
And he stood there this evening telling me about this and laughed, expecting me to find it funny. When I told him I thought that was disgusting and actually quite upsetting, and I would be devasted if ds ever said anything like this, he said 'oh come on, he probably will when he's a bit older, stop being so over the top'
Anyway it ended in a horrible rant of verbal abuse and him blaming his bad upbringing and I don't know the half of it etc etc.
The thing is, this has hardened my resolve that I need to set stronger boundries and try and protect my ds even more from picking up his father's values.
But, it means selling the house and and loosing the security/space/investment for the future.
I can't afford to buy him out, although I am pretty much paying all the mortgage anyway.
I am not sure what to do, but I just know I have to do more than I am doing at the moment.
Or am I being over the top? (Sometimes I wonder, I have had many years of this..)
Sorry for long message, but if anyone had any advice at all I would appreciate it very much...