Advice needed

[ImATerriblePerson]

I nearly cheated on my boyfriend. In fact, I think what I did should be classed as cheating. I was incredibly drunk last night. I blacked out and don't remember most of the night so this is just what other people have told me. Apparently, I tried to give someone a blowjob and offered them sex. Luckily, the guy is a good friend and nothing happened. I don't remember any of this but I know this isn't an excuse. Nothing actually happened but I feel terrible. My boyfriend cheated while drunk and that really hurt so I feel like such a hypocrite (though the circumstances were different and he didn't regret it immediately). I feel like he deserves to know, but I don't have the guts to tell him. It'll hurt him and ruin our relationship. I don't know what to do. (Well I know what I have to do but I'm so scared).
Also I'm really worried about my morals. I thought I had morals but clearly I don't. I feel like such a shitty person.

You need to sit your boyfriend down and be honest with him. It doesnt need to turn into "well you did it to me so I did it to you" or "well I guess we are even now" but I think you need to have a talk about where your relationship is going.

What are you scared about- hurting him? Breaking up with him and being alone/dealing with the emotions of that?

Mainly hurting him. He's very in love and he thinks I'm perfect (I've tried telling him I'm not). This will crush him. I feel like I wouldn't even have the right to be upset if we did break up. I don't know if I'm being delusional but I have some that he'd try to forgive me. This will completely change his view of me (and himself) though and I hate that.

I disagree. Do not tell your boyfriend. Nothing happened and it can be a lesson learned that two wrongs don't make it right. You do have morals. Stop worrying and do the right thing from now on.
You do not need to tell him. Get a grip.

Remember if he really loved you he wouldn't have cheated. If you tell him he could turn the tables on you and blame you. Look after yourself.

Can I be honest with you OP? You might not like to hear this- but if he was "very in love" he wouldnt of cheated on you. Period. Naybe Enough is right about not telling him- but can you hand on heart, 100% say you are happy with him and that he wont do it again? If the answer is yes- then stay. If not- you need to have a conversation with him. If it was me id be wondering if it was my consciences way of telling me im not happy.

Why did you get incredibly drunk last night and how reliable are those who've told you what you got up to, even though you have no memory of trying to give someone a blow-job and offering to have sex with them?

What is the last thing you remember about the night's proceedings and did you wake up in your own bed in the morning?

When did your boyfriend cheat on you and have you been harbouring any resentment that he didn't immediately regret what he'd done?

It was at a party with an open bar so I went over the top. The guy was the only one who witnessed it but I don't think he'd lie. I woke up in my own bed because my best friend took me home. He cheated a few months and it still upsets me sometimes. It took him a whole weekend to decide he wanted to be with me rather than her. A month later, something else happened with the same girl, I don't want to go into too much detail but it wasn't cheating.
I don't know if that's what made me act the way I did yesterday though. I'm really trying to move on from what happened. He's drunk right now (We're not alcoholics I swear, just university students) and he's drunk texting me about how much he loves me. He's saying he's sorry for letting me down and that I deserve the world. It's quite cheesy but sweet and I feel terrible. I really don't want to tell him.

Sorry but he went back in some form. Alarm bells are ringing for me. Time to stop letting him wipe his boots all over you, OP.

Presuming that there were more than the 3 of you at the party I find it curious that the only one who witnessed you trying to give a guy a blowjob and offering to have sex was the alleged object of your attentions, a guy you've described as a 'good friend'.

Could this 'good friend' have designs on you himself and could it be that he knows you well enough to assume that you would tell your skanky boyfriend of your alleged antics thus bringing about a possible end to your relationship with the lowlife sooner rather than later?

If you were so drunk that your cognitive/conscious mind went off duty and this incident did indeed take place, it's probable that you subsconciously acted out some of your angst about your so-called boyfriend's inability to keep his flies zipped lack of moral scruple by attempting to have revenge sex with the nearest available candidate.

In any event, unless you are intent on shaking his complacency, I see no reason why you should tell the sexual opportunist what you allegedly got up to and every reason why you should dump his sorry arse without further ado.

It seems to me that you should refrain from getting totally wasted when you are emotionally fraught and also get wise to the fact that, no matter what trite crap blandishments he comes out with, any guy who cheats on you doesn't love you and isn't worthy of you.

Get yourself a fancy belt and a small notch cutter and have a ball at uni because these blithe days of carefree living will be over before you know it and they won't come round again.

Honestly cut your losses, he cheated on you a couple of times. Not worth it.

He cheated on you and kept you
Dangling for a weekend while he made his decision? That's not the action of a man who loves you. And him thinking you are perfect (so
Perfect he fucked someone else?) isn't healthy either.

You have hopefully learnt a lesson about alcohol and your limits.

Don't tell the boyfriend. Nothing happened.

OP you shouldn't be in this relationship. If he cheated on you while you are 'perfect' and in the relatively early stages of a relationship, how do you think this will play out after a good many years together? He's a cheater and a very good manipulator by the sounds of things.

I wouldn't tell him anything. There's nothing to tell. But I would be careful on how much you drink in future (you may not be so lucky) and I would think about why it is you're staying with someone like this.