I remember posting back in the spring when my stbexh told me about his relationship with the OW and claimed it was just a kiss that they had shared and decided to call it quits.
You lot said 'if he admits to a kiss it's always more' and I clung to his version for a long time as he kept insisting that they didn't do anything more. I've found out that when she was away with her husband skiing she was making hour long phone calls to my ex pledging her love to him and telling him what she would do when she got him alone.
Ha! How bloody naive am I?
This week, following my daughters message to the OW, I have discovered that they did get it on, almost as he had performance anxiety and couldn't get it up, but they had talked of leaving both me and her husband, and although they hadn't spoken over the summer, when he left she had plans on going round to his flat and seeing him there. Since my DDs message she has contacted the police (or told my ex that she has) and been advised to not speak to him or contact him in anyway. Apparently my ex has decided that she was out of line with the things she has said to our DD and regrets telling DD that he is disappointed in her. Although I think he was probably disappointed that she won't call round anymore to the flat.
Anyway tonight now that I know the truth (or more of it anyway) I'm going to toast his anxiety hahahahaha almost hysterically and feel better about myself, I'm going to scoop up the little tattered remains of my self esteem and remind myself that I didn't go out for a 'run' without my knickers and attempt to shag a guy in the back seat of my car Trollope
Thank you all again for the support you have given me so far, no doubt I will be calling on it again as I go down the route of official separation and divorce